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Welcome back to Spill the Tea unfiltered.
Hey, guys.
Hey.
Oh, man. How are you guys doing?
Good.
[00:00:41] Speaker B: Yeah, Hanging in there. Trying to get through a new kitten school.
[00:00:47] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:00:47] Speaker B: And work.
[00:00:48] Speaker C: We have a new mascot.
[00:00:50] Speaker A: We do Biggie Paws. Biggie Paws. You'll see him on our socials. He's currently hiding under the bed, but he's getting used to it. Maybe one day we'll be able to actually have him on the, like, our.
[00:01:01] Speaker C: Laps without him biting us.
[00:01:04] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah, y'.
[00:01:06] Speaker A: All.
[00:01:06] Speaker B: He was a stray, though. He was a rescue. But may I mention that that should be the only stray we take in in 2026?
[00:01:12] Speaker C: Only the four legged ones, not two legged.
[00:01:14] Speaker A: Facts. Facts. Like, especially with this cold snap coming, you know, because again, for the second weekend in a row, we're having another cold snap. Which cracks me up because I'm like, if Dick hasn't found his woman yet, he's. He's. He is on the hunt.
[00:01:29] Speaker C: Well, there's another one supposedly in mid February that's supposed to hit too. So he's.
This may be the longest commitment he's ever had.
[00:01:39] Speaker A: He's probably like, I'm just gonna not get on the apps. If once they find somebody until it gets warm again, then he'll get back on the apps.
[00:01:45] Speaker C: Come like March or April. He'll be back on them.
[00:01:47] Speaker A: Facts. As soon as he can get on that motorcycle.
If he still has it. Who knows? Does anyone know? None of us knows.
[00:01:54] Speaker C: He's gone into hiding.
[00:01:55] Speaker A: None of us know.
Okay, so today we. Which I'm locked out, so you're gonna have to open it again.
We want to talk about.
We had a. We had a real kind of go viral. Yeah.
Yeah.
In the point of the real. It was a joke and it was a point of. It was, you know, in your 30s, you'll meet. I posted it. In your 30s, you'll meet two women who your husband had an affair with and you should keep them and ditch him.
Which obviously I did and should have one. The amount of women on here who did not understand that you guys didn't know, obviously.
[00:02:31] Speaker C: And all of them were like, oh, well, they slept.
[00:02:34] Speaker A: Y'.
[00:02:34] Speaker C: All. All slept with him and it's just like, no, all of us did not.
[00:02:37] Speaker A: Yeah, they're making assumptions.
[00:02:38] Speaker B: Just because you date somebody doesn't mean you're automatically going to sleep with them.
[00:02:41] Speaker A: Right?
[00:02:42] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:02:42] Speaker A: Right. So they were making assumptions about that. But then, like, I was cracking up because I was just like, do you really think that I was like, oh, yes, they knew about me and they purposely tried to wreck my home but let me be best friends with them.
[00:02:56] Speaker B: No.
[00:02:57] Speaker C: Not happening.
[00:02:58] Speaker A: No. But no one in their right mind would do that, right?
[00:03:01] Speaker C: Oh, God, no.
[00:03:02] Speaker A: So, no, that was not the case.
[00:03:04] Speaker C: And we are in our right minds.
[00:03:06] Speaker A: Most days, for the most part.
[00:03:09] Speaker B: I mean, sometimes this is a little.
[00:03:11] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:03:11] Speaker B: At least for me.
[00:03:13] Speaker A: Same. But. But it was just so funny because I was just like, no. What the. Like, absolutely.
[00:03:17] Speaker C: The.
[00:03:17] Speaker A: Not. They did. They did not know about me because if they did, I wouldn't have been friends with them.
The point is, Dick lied to everybody. Shocking. But even more so than the women who commented and said that stuff, which I was just like, whatever. Women. There are some women on there who say, like, things like, slay queens. I love this.
You guys. Are. You guys. He has a type. Beautiful and way too good for him. Like, yes, you're damn right. Which we love women who support women and who get the joke, but mainly women who support women, because there's a lot of women out there who. Who don't.
But then the amount of men that we got.
I'm going to call this one jp.
JP said he probably don't care. He still got to hit all three wrong.
So there it is again.
[00:04:06] Speaker B: But, like, where was the grammar in that?
[00:04:09] Speaker A: Right. No grammar. Also wrong. Like, you're again making assumptions.
And you, sir, are uneducated. And then let me tell you something, jp. He gives a fuck because I'm making his life a living hell.
[00:04:27] Speaker C: Yeah, she.
[00:04:28] Speaker A: She is so.
[00:04:29] Speaker B: I mean, his feelings really look hurt at the Blink 182 concert when he seen us together.
[00:04:33] Speaker A: Oh, yeah, he was. He was not happy. And then he was supposed to go to another concert with the same woman he went to blink 182 with. And then she ditched him and didn't take him to that concert because we would have seen him again.
So. Dang.
Oops.
[00:04:47] Speaker B: Hate that for him.
[00:04:49] Speaker A: So sad for him. But, like, trust me, he cares. Not because he misses me or because he's a good human. He cares because he doesn't want to have to pay me the tens of thousands of dollars he owes me. And I'm not going to let it go ever.
[00:05:04] Speaker C: So.
[00:05:08] Speaker A: Then you got. You got Bacon. We're going to call him Bacon. Bacon is saying things like, he must be a real stud the way he was stacking women.
Let's make that clear too. Dick is not a stud.
[00:05:21] Speaker C: No.
[00:05:22] Speaker A: But he is a very smooth talker. He's a charmer. And the way he talks to women. And he knows all the things to say to make you feel like you are beautiful and like you're the only person in the room. Well.
[00:05:34] Speaker C: And he kind of gives that like, bad boy vibe based on his pictures and stuff. And a lot of women like that.
[00:05:39] Speaker A: Yep. He has tattoos, the motorcycles, you know, he. He does give off that bad. And he. But then he also gives off the like, shy, quiet, like, I'm mysterious, shy, quiet type.
No, he's just an asshole who's talking to 50 billion women at once. And so he doesn't want to get your name wrong, but he will rematch with you.
[00:05:59] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:05:59] Speaker A: Because he doesn't remember exactly. It's so bad that he's like, he matches with so many women that he. Because he. You're not the only one. He rematched with the Chattanooga one too.
[00:06:10] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:06:10] Speaker A: And she reached back out to me and was like, he just liked me again. And I was like, I'm telling you, like, there's just. No, there's no way.
[00:06:19] Speaker B: You gotta really hurt their feelings.
[00:06:22] Speaker A: I also love the amount of men who think it's okay to comment on our bodies.
[00:06:28] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:06:29] Speaker A: Like, body shapes are the same on all three.
A woman curse.
[00:06:37] Speaker B: Sorry that I eat biscuits and sweet tea because I live in the South.
[00:06:40] Speaker A: I ain't sorry for. Me neither.
[00:06:42] Speaker B: Really. Because I love them.
[00:06:43] Speaker A: Because, I mean, but.
[00:06:44] Speaker B: But here's the thing I'll never tell Cracker Barrel. No.
[00:06:47] Speaker A: The average size in the US is like a 16, and we're all smaller than that. Yeah.
So I'm like, are you stupid? What did he look like? Well, and that's the other thing, right?
[00:07:01] Speaker C: 42, 40.
[00:07:02] Speaker A: That's the other thing is they're always. Well, this one, this way. Oh, he's married. If you're married, why are you commenting on our podcast about women?
[00:07:10] Speaker B: How did he.
[00:07:11] Speaker A: For women? Exactly.
So go back to your wife.
[00:07:16] Speaker B: There was one that had photos of where he had used AI and I don't even know if it was his actual family, but it was a group of them in Star Trek.
Listen, he had six chins. I was like. And you're talking about me?
[00:07:28] Speaker A: Yeah, bro.
[00:07:29] Speaker B: I only have three chins.
[00:07:31] Speaker C: This guy I've got you beat.
[00:07:34] Speaker A: This guy has the same name twice and he goes, so first of all, I'm judging the out of you just.
[00:07:40] Speaker B: Off that because your mom would.
[00:07:42] Speaker A: Couldn't be original, right?
Guarantee one of them is still banging him and use the relationship with the other two women to get them to leave him first. English Try it. It's not hard.
But the one doesn't know another one did the same thing. So he got two of them. He's the only one he's not with, I guarantee you is the white, which was you.
[00:08:07] Speaker B: So does that mean I'm the ugly one?
[00:08:09] Speaker A: No, I think he was like, oh, you're the occasional booty call.
[00:08:13] Speaker B: Yeah, I'm the occasional booty call. So was I not good enough to be in the full relationship? I don't get it.
[00:08:19] Speaker A: I don't know.
[00:08:19] Speaker B: But why was that the booty call?
[00:08:20] Speaker A: Is this a guy that has the AI pictures? Because this is a yes.
[00:08:24] Speaker B: He's changed it. Yeah, look how many chins he has.
[00:08:27] Speaker A: He has to make up a family on AI because he's so lame he doesn't have one.
[00:08:31] Speaker C: Why is he doing Christmas pictures as of, what is that, two days ago?
[00:08:35] Speaker A: They aren't even the same race.
His made up family isn't even famous.
Listen man, if you're going to talk about women's bodies and talk shit, at least be attractive and not have to make up an AI family. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
But they like. It's just, it's crazy the amount of men who think that it's okay to comment on women's bodies still today in 2026. Yep. And if I don't tell you that it's pushing me further and further and further away from men because I'm just like, what year is it?
[00:09:18] Speaker C: It's disgusting.
[00:09:19] Speaker A: Like, you can't just sit there and talk about women's bodies all the damn time.
We were, it was winter, we were in sweaters. So you can't use the excuse while you were wearing something showy. Shut the up. No, we weren't.
We were in jeans and sweaters. But again, the amount of women who just say things like, some people will ask, did he know they were married? No. But then some people would be like, but are they cheaters too hard Pass.
[00:09:47] Speaker C: No, we're not cheaters.
[00:09:48] Speaker A: No. And then the, the Eskimo sisters. One that cracked you up. God far from again. Go home to your wife. Why are you commenting on an all girls? Maybe we should tell his wife that he's commenting on our page.
Maybe that's what we should start doing.
[00:10:06] Speaker C: Is going to the wives able to see it, though.
[00:10:08] Speaker A: Well, we should go to the wives and be like, hey, just so you know, hey. He had two tickets available for the Ohio State and Tennessee game. That's interesting.
But, yeah, like, the amount of people who think it's okay just. He has a. He has a preferred weight class.
What. What do you think that is, lw? Let's look at what he looks like.
Let's see.
[00:10:33] Speaker B: Betty weighs more than us.
[00:10:35] Speaker A: Well, first of all, he's has bitcoin, guys. He's a bitcoin bro.
He thinks he's rich.
Oh, bless your heart, lw. You think you're rich and you have to edit your photos to look like you're hard and cool.
What would you guess? I'm gonna go says ages. Like, we're gonna go, like, mid-50s. Mid-50s, 60s. So why are you commenting on our page, LW?
[00:11:04] Speaker B: A lot of the men that were commenting were, like, men that would never have a chance, right? Ever. So thank you for thinking that I'm ugly or that I'm fat, because I want you to think that because you're ugly and I don't want you.
[00:11:16] Speaker C: So thank you.
[00:11:17] Speaker A: Well, and also, your personality is obviously shit if you think that it's okay to talk about women's bodies.
Then we have Maryland here who commented.
What weren't you doing?
He has no pictures. Well, he has no pictures of himself, so that, to me means you're automatically ugly because you won't put pictures of yourself out.
So, md, let me tell you and everyone else who watches this and any men who stumble across this podcast and who. Who will say, well, she wasn't giving him something.
I tried all the time to sleep with my husband, but my husband has ED issues or had ED issues.
I had to get him shots for it to work. And then instead of making it work with his wife because he was embarrassed because he has, you know, ED issues, he decided to go sleep with a bunch of other women to make himself feel better about his little wee wee not working.
[00:12:19] Speaker B: And she does mean little.
Right?
[00:12:23] Speaker A: So apparently I'm going to say Maryland probably has the same issue, because why are you asking what we weren't doing to assume that a woman isn't doing something and that the guy had an affair. One is putting blame on the woman, which is bullshit. And two, isn't even, like, ever the case. Like, it's not a woman's fault that a man cheats.
[00:12:45] Speaker C: No, it's not.
[00:12:46] Speaker A: It is a moral and integrity issue with that man. Because a real man would sit and have a conversation with his wife and have discussions with her. Yep.
[00:12:57] Speaker C: He would know how to communicate. He would be emotionally intelligent, and if.
[00:13:01] Speaker A: There were any issues. But the fact that I literally was, like, begging him to sleep with me because I was married to this man, and that's what you want from your husband. And then he would tell me that I was being desperate and it wasn't attractive because I was asking. Because he wouldn't do it, because he could. He couldn't. And then when he could, he wanted to get it elsewhere because he was so embarrassed. Because he tried saying later that, like, he felt so ashamed and, like, so, like, embarrassed with me because I knew all this stuff, and so he wanted. I was like, I don't want to hear your excuses for why you're a hoe.
[00:13:38] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:13:38] Speaker A: And also, again, a pattern with him because he did this to his daughter's mom, and then he did it to his son's mom, too.
[00:13:44] Speaker C: Did they have the same issues with him, like, not being able to.
[00:13:47] Speaker A: His daughter's mom did. I haven't talked to his son's mom about that, but I know that his daughter's mom did.
[00:13:51] Speaker C: I wonder if it's, like, the excitement he gets from cheating and, like. And that's what really gets him going.
[00:13:56] Speaker A: I think that's a lot of what it is. I think for him, like, he has actual ED issues, and the excitement of it being someone new and getting away with something is what makes him actually be able to get it up.
[00:14:09] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:14:10] Speaker A: Which sucks for you, but you should probably work on that. Work on that without us.
Yeah. Another. Another. You guys are still f. He actually almost spelled out him, which is funny because his picture is with his daughter.
And I was. I'm like, I hope nobody talks to you, like, talks about your daughter that way.
[00:14:36] Speaker B: What is up with that beard, though?
[00:14:38] Speaker A: Oh, I know. It's gross.
[00:14:39] Speaker B: That's not majestic.
[00:14:40] Speaker A: It's not. It's completely unkempt.
[00:14:42] Speaker B: That looks like it has license.
[00:14:44] Speaker A: But. But it's funny because our response. Our response. He's. He's in a. He's in Canada. And our response was, someone from Canada knows what's happening in Alabama.
I highly doubt that. Thanks for your comment, though.
Hope your daughter doesn't learn how to talk about women. You don't know that's gross. Or learn how you talk about them.
Yeah. So, you know, probably shouldn't comment.
Did you guys see that thing I posted the other day where this woman posted saying, I've never commented on somebody's like, page when I didn't like their content. I just scroll on by.
[00:15:20] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:15:21] Speaker A: And I reposted that because, like, same. Because I don't have time to sit there and just post something. Like, if I don't like what I see, I just keep scrolling. And if I'm following them and I don't like what I see, I unfollow them.
[00:15:32] Speaker C: Right.
[00:15:33] Speaker A: But, like, I'm not going to sit there and like, write out stuff. So the amount of men who took their time to write something. You know what men.
[00:15:40] Speaker C: Paragraphs. Like, these are like the short comments. There were paragraphs literally of.
[00:15:48] Speaker A: It's just one. Some of them we kept messing with and it was so funny. And they kept like, they. They just kept like sending us stuff. What they don't understand is they were making it go viral. Yeah.
So you know what? Never mind. Keep commenting.
If you want to help women go viral, by all means.
[00:16:06] Speaker B: I like all the hate because I want to be in Hawaii doing my therapy inst. Live here. So keep it going.
[00:16:12] Speaker A: Seriously.
But then even a woman who says he has a type, doesn't he like women?
Y' all need to start stop, like, posting this stuff about other women. Like, what are you doing?
[00:16:28] Speaker B: Like, I mean, he does have a type, though. Three beautiful women. Like, he has a type. You're right.
[00:16:33] Speaker A: Yeah.
But the thing that's funny is if we actually land lined up all of them, like the 20 plus, he's all over the spectrum. Yeah. So there would.
[00:16:43] Speaker C: No, there would not be.
[00:16:44] Speaker A: Let's have people with tattoo forehead tattoos.
[00:16:46] Speaker B: But I think every woman's beautiful in their own way, so.
[00:16:49] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah, he does.
[00:16:51] Speaker B: He has the type. He likes pretty women.
[00:16:53] Speaker A: So I think you're a beautiful woman. Unless you're one of the women who are talking about other women. Yeah, well, yeah, but to sit there and just say it's all a body size, like, you know, that's what they're doing is they're trying to be like, oh, you guys are the similar body types and just like, throw us all in together. It's just. It's disgusting. But also, like, it doesn't have the effect you think it does to just talk about people at women's bodies all the damn time is annoying as hell. And I'm like, they do. They think we're like, let me run to the gym. I got news for you. I go every day anyway, and I don't.
[00:17:22] Speaker B: And right after you said all those comments about my body, I still went to the fridge and got a snack.
[00:17:28] Speaker A: So we love snacks.
I still went chick filling on my sweet team. The Lord's chicken is the best.
[00:17:36] Speaker B: My friends still tell me I'm pretty, so I guess I'm okay.
[00:17:38] Speaker A: That's right. You're forever beautiful to us.
But, yeah. So women do better. Stop commenting about our bodies, and also, you know, stop giving us hate. But then men, I would tell you to do better, but you don't know how.
[00:17:50] Speaker C: So.
[00:17:52] Speaker A: Brie, you have the story for us today. So somebody sent in a story for us.
So Bri's gonna read it, and then we'll discuss.
[00:18:01] Speaker C: So she says. My ex husband moved us from Florida to Missouri. Then six days in, he decided he wanted the single life that the Navy provided him.
This is after I stayed with him, after he cheated on me and fell in love with his mistress. And I had to wait until we had been there for six months to file for divorce.
[00:18:20] Speaker A: Sounds right. Court system's messed up.
[00:18:22] Speaker C: Absolutely. After the six months, I unblocked him and gave him my address to mail the signed paperwork so. So I could get it notarized. It took him another six months to do that.
Why is it so hard to paper? I had the same issues, like, with my second ex husband. He would not sign papers. He wanted everything his way or the highway. Would not do anything.
[00:18:42] Speaker A: I'm telling you right now, if I wouldn't have, like, forced Dick, if I wouldn't have threatened to take you and put you on the stand, Dick wouldn't have signed those papers, and I would still be legally married. Because now you can't find him.
[00:18:53] Speaker B: You should have me on the stand.
[00:18:54] Speaker A: I would have loved that.
But, like. But that's what I don't understand. Like, men. He was married. Dick was married to his first wife.
They separated when his daughter was 2 or. And then they. When she was, like, 11, they finally got divorced. Legally because he wouldn't sign the papers because he was just too lazy to go do it.
[00:19:16] Speaker B: It's crazy, though, because, I mean, you know, I hadn't been married, but even when men know they're wrong, like, they don't want to leave afterwards. Like, they don't want to own up to him. My ex would not move out of my house. And I was like, you were the one who made all these choices.
[00:19:30] Speaker A: Like, you cheated, bro.
[00:19:31] Speaker B: Get out, bro. Yeah, it wasn't until I decided I was like, finally I threatened to out him, and then he was like, oh, okay, I guess I can go.
[00:19:38] Speaker C: Well, it's not.
I took mine to ups and signed it and notarized it in front of God and everybody.
[00:19:43] Speaker A: Right.
[00:19:44] Speaker C: Yes. For 25.
It's not a bank.
[00:19:47] Speaker A: Yeah. If you can go to your bank for free.
[00:19:48] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:19:49] Speaker A: And get it notarized.
[00:19:50] Speaker C: Not hard.
[00:19:51] Speaker A: So I just don't understand.
[00:19:53] Speaker C: So she says I sent it back to him the same day that I got it. And because he's a man child, he never actually filed the paperwork.
So she's had to wait six months.
Plus in another six months because he wouldn't sign. And then he never filed the papers as his mistress.
[00:20:10] Speaker B: I'd be a little offended if he refused to sign the paperwork after we done with her. All this too.
[00:20:15] Speaker C: I mean, as you should be. But like.
[00:20:18] Speaker A: Well, it's crazy to me first, because Alabama is the same way. Like, you have to live somewhere six months before you could do anything. And I'm like, why? If I was married to somebody in another state, why do I have to live here six months?
[00:20:28] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:20:29] Speaker A: What? Like, what in the twisted is that? And also, I'm surprised there's not a military exception for that. Like, that's dumb. But then also, are we surprised that a military person did this?
[00:20:37] Speaker B: But like, he put her through all of that and still wouldn't give her the divorce just to hold on to her? Yeah. It's ridiculous.
[00:20:44] Speaker C: Because he wanted that control.
[00:20:45] Speaker B: It was all about control for him. I'm sure.
[00:20:48] Speaker A: So she said.
[00:20:49] Speaker C: Anyways, I just moved to Madison with.
Which I'm assuming is maybe her now boyfriend. We're going to call him Allan.
It's an inside joke. It's an inside joke.
[00:21:05] Speaker A: Anyways.
[00:21:08] Speaker C: Madison is closer to my family than Mobile. And I told him and my family if our relationship didn't work out, then I would move back home and. And it would be a closer move. So I had to take matters into my own hands and file. Well, Madison also has a six month residency rule. Overall, I had to wait three years to divorce since I had to find him first because he went AWOL from the Navy and moved back home to his mommy.
[00:21:31] Speaker A: Oh, back to the mom. Always. You know, some mommy mommies are. And I bet mommy probably just is, like, come here, Mike. Suckle the titty. Come here.
It's just dry.
[00:21:43] Speaker C: I cannot deal with you.
[00:21:44] Speaker B: Every narcissist has a mother who stands behind them.
[00:21:47] Speaker C: They're enablers.
[00:21:48] Speaker A: Because they are. They're narcs too.
[00:21:50] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:21:51] Speaker A: Freaking Dick's mom. The worst.
[00:21:53] Speaker B: Didn't do nothing wrong.
[00:21:54] Speaker A: Yeah, she chose to spend the money on him.
No, Dick's mom. I didn't I thought that I was married to a man that I loved.
[00:22:02] Speaker B: So did the mistress decide that she didn't want him anymore now that it wasn't a cat, mouse chase?
[00:22:08] Speaker C: I don't know. Let's see what else she has to say.
So she had to use some not so legal connections to find that out. She said, but I like it. I did go up to Missouri to get the paperwork signed with him, also having to use those connections. And I looked damn good while doing it. While signing it next to him.
[00:22:27] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:22:28] Speaker C: He was also the director of operations for Chick Fil A. And he got fired over his treatment of me because his morals didn't align with the company.
[00:22:37] Speaker B: Good job on Chick Fil A.
[00:22:40] Speaker A: See, this is why they get my money. They. You know what? We stan the Lord's chicken because they don't let men do this.
[00:22:48] Speaker B: Yeah, but it's all about the culture of their company.
[00:22:50] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, because morals and integrity. I mean, that's also should be something our military does and supposedly do. But then we hear all the time.
[00:22:58] Speaker C: I wonder if he said, my pleasure when he got finished signing.
[00:23:02] Speaker A: That'd be pretty funny.
[00:23:03] Speaker C: I'd slap him.
So let's see. It says I took the paperwork home after forcing him to sign it all, and I paid the 300 to file for it and was legally divorced after one month.
Wait. After a one month weight imposed by the system.
So like three years and a month is what she had to wait.
[00:23:22] Speaker A: All because of a system. Because. And that's what's crazy to me. Like, why can't the system just, hey, I want a divorce. And they're like, well, now you need to wait this time. Okay, now he has to agree to it. Like, why?
[00:23:35] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:23:35] Speaker A: And after a certain amount of time, there should be like a, hey, I tried to. I tried to serve this. You know, why can't we just be divorced?
[00:23:43] Speaker C: Right?
[00:23:44] Speaker A: Like, it's insane that it should.
[00:23:46] Speaker C: You should never have to wait that long.
[00:23:47] Speaker A: No, that's wild.
[00:23:49] Speaker B: And if it's gonna be like that, let it be as hard as the divorce is to get married.
[00:23:54] Speaker A: Right.
[00:23:54] Speaker B: So then people, you know, you're gonna figure out, okay, maybe this person isn't right for me.
[00:23:58] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:23:58] Speaker B: Look, I ran away two weeks before the wedding. I figured it out, but.
[00:24:02] Speaker A: Yeah. Got lucky.
[00:24:03] Speaker C: Thank God you figured that out. That was awful.
[00:24:05] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:24:06] Speaker C: So let's see here. She goes on to say his family still keeps tabs on her.
[00:24:13] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:24:14] Speaker C: Which is kind of weird, but I get that.
[00:24:17] Speaker A: Yeah, clearly. Yeah.
[00:24:18] Speaker C: She said my life with him was like a Telenova. His mom hated me because I was white. His ex girlfriend's boyfriend threatened to beat me up because I somehow disrespected her.
[00:24:30] Speaker A: Even though they were exes. That's why the woman he cheated on.
[00:24:34] Speaker C: Me with was actually a good friend of mine. He cheated with two of my friends, and one of them unalived herself. When the secret came out and I told her I couldn't forgive her, but I had to forgive him because he was my husband.
Also found out he was cheating on me the entire time while he was at training and I was holding down the fort at home.
[00:24:53] Speaker A: All right, I feel you there. Mine was also cheating on me while he was at training, and I was holding down the Ford at home.
There's a lot to unpack there. So I hope she does not take that suicide on her, because that's not her fault.
[00:25:11] Speaker C: No, absolutely.
[00:25:12] Speaker A: That. That friend. And I'll put it in quotes, because no friends do what she did.
[00:25:17] Speaker C: No.
[00:25:18] Speaker A: Well. And chose to make that decision on her own.
[00:25:20] Speaker C: Yeah. And not only did she lose her husband, she lost two of her friends in the process.
[00:25:25] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:25:26] Speaker C: So that really sucks. And.
[00:25:27] Speaker A: And shame on those women, because again, that's a situation where those women knew they were friends with her beforehand, you know, that she's married and you're still choosing to sleep with that man. Right. And then obviously it didn't work out with them either. So was it worth losing your friend over? And also, were you ever really friends?
[00:25:43] Speaker C: No.
[00:25:44] Speaker A: Like that.
[00:25:44] Speaker C: There's no way.
[00:25:45] Speaker B: Honestly, when it comes to the suicide thing, there's probably other things that came before that that were also going on. So that's going to be probably the only factor in all of that.
So I hope that she doesn't carry that weight.
[00:25:57] Speaker A: Yeah, I hope she doesn't either, because, I mean, that's not anybody who makes that choice. It's. It's. It's a sad situation. We have a very bad mental health issue in this country, but that's not on any particular person.
[00:26:10] Speaker B: And it's not usually just on one action either. It's usually like it's more than one thing after another. Maybe.
[00:26:16] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:26:17] Speaker B: A lot of things going on. So.
[00:26:19] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's definitely. I mean, that's. That sucks. And that's got to be.
I'm sure that was difficult to learn about and everything else, but at the same time, like, that person made a choice to betray her friend and sleep with her husband. And so I almost wish that's what.
[00:26:40] Speaker C: Matu would have done, you know, I just don't think that made it so much easier.
[00:26:47] Speaker A: My thing is, is I.
So one of my best friends is a guy and we've been best friends since sixth grade.
And I rarely talk to him without talking to his now wife, like, just out of respect for her. And I did the same thing when he was in a long term relationship before he got married. His previous relationship, he was with her for like five years. And I did the same thing. Yeah, I will message in a group also.
[00:27:15] Speaker C: They don't y' all have like a group chat?
[00:27:17] Speaker A: I. I text them both. Yeah. Like they, they had bad weather and so I text the group and said like, are you guys okay? And sometimes I only message her. And a lot of times, like on like social media and stuff, you know, she's usually the one posting stuff. So like I respond to her the most. Yeah, it's just a respect thing. Yeah, you should absolutely talk to the wife. And I forget where I was recently and I don't know if you guys were with me because I had a lot of going on this week, but I was somewhere and I was giving that situation that story and, and a wife was like, thank you. She's like. Because it's really weird when women all of a sudden, like you become friends with a couple and then that woman starts texting the husband.
And apparently I think the story was that she, the her husband and her became friends with this couple and the woman started texting her husband and she was like, no, I don't like this.
And the woman got like upset and was like, well, what do you think I'm gonna do? And I'm like, because she got caught.
Right? Because I. Because women with integrity would be like, that's inappropriate for me to do. The only time it's appropriate is if you're like. Like for me, I've. One of my girls, I've messaged her husband before because we were planning a surprise party for her.
[00:28:39] Speaker C: Right. That's totally different.
[00:28:41] Speaker A: Different. And, and like completely. And it's. And it's literally just about that.
[00:28:45] Speaker C: Yeah, I agree.
[00:28:46] Speaker A: Not about random. Oh yeah. I saw this today to make me think of you. Wait, what?
[00:28:52] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:28:52] Speaker A: Why are you thinking about my husband? Yeah.
[00:28:55] Speaker C: So send me through the roof.
[00:28:57] Speaker A: Same. I just don't think that's appropriate at all.
[00:28:59] Speaker C: But my thing would be like, if he came to me and told me about it. That's one thing. Right.
[00:29:04] Speaker A: He. He wasn't the problem. It was her. Exactly. So, yeah, the husband said like, hey, so. And so is messaging me and Then the wife went to the other wife and said, hey, why are you messaging my husband? And that woman took offense and was like, well, it shouldn't be a big deal. Yeah, okay.
So my thing is, I'm like, that woman's husband should probably check out her phone because she's probably cheated on him.
[00:29:25] Speaker C: You may not think it's a big deal, but I'm about to make it a big deal because, honey, you hadn't seen that, son.
[00:29:30] Speaker A: No, it's just inappropriate. But the. It sucks that the systems are so broken that it takes forever to divorce somebody. You have to move. You have to. You have to move away to get away from people.
And then you have to deal with, like, friends being shitty and not actually being friends.
It really is, like, hard. Like, it makes it hard to trust people and, like, let people in your circle. Because, like, even, like now, like, I don't trust men for shit, and I'm not going to probably ever again. But even with women, like, you have to be very, very careful.
[00:30:07] Speaker C: And see, I've always had a harder time trusting women than I have men.
[00:30:10] Speaker A: Because a lot of women who go behind your back and do shady.
[00:30:13] Speaker C: Exactly. Or they just drop off the face level.
What was that?
[00:30:17] Speaker B: You said you had a hard time trusting women, but makes men be on that next level. I can't trust not any of them.
[00:30:24] Speaker A: Yeah, well, I. I'm the same way, but I think with women, it's more.
Are you gonna deal with the Caddy?
Like, we were all joking about something before we started this podcast, and, yeah. Bree's like, I'm gonna beat you. And like, you know, I didn't say beat.
Well, but either.
[00:30:42] Speaker C: But I did call y', all, but rightfully so.
[00:30:45] Speaker A: And it's funny. But. But it's. You know, we're joking about stuff, and we're joking about it to her face.
[00:30:50] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:30:50] Speaker A: And it's not anything that we would go, like, behind somebody's back and say, shit, yeah. You know, you're coming at somebody and being like, hahaha. And making jokes, and then you're like, fuck you. And. And then you keep going. That's true friendship. Yeah.
[00:31:02] Speaker C: And I'm still wagering 2, $500.
We're not telling y' all what it is, but it's a 2, 500 wager.
[00:31:10] Speaker A: You know, if I can ever get my money from Dick. You're on.
But yeah, it's. It's.
[00:31:15] Speaker B: It's just spending all my money on the cat.
[00:31:17] Speaker A: You have a new man in your life.
[00:31:20] Speaker C: The best.
[00:31:22] Speaker A: He is really?
[00:31:23] Speaker B: Biggie paws.
[00:31:24] Speaker A: He has little cross eyes, but. Yeah. I don't know, guys. It's just women are a hard thing, too, but, like, these men that just want to hang on to relationships and control stuff and, like, a broken system helping them. Yeah, Gross.
[00:31:40] Speaker C: Yeah, it is gross.
[00:31:43] Speaker A: Well, I'm glad that they shared their story and, you know, I'm sure we'll relate. With somebody taking forever to get divorced because. Because of a man.
They just make your life harder. Like, it's just. It's wild over here, you know, how you avoid divorce. Don't get married.
[00:31:58] Speaker B: Don't get married.
[00:32:00] Speaker C: Happens.
[00:32:02] Speaker A: She says.
[00:32:04] Speaker B: It doesn't, though.
[00:32:05] Speaker C: I've.
[00:32:05] Speaker B: I've made it all this time. 33 years. You know what?
[00:32:08] Speaker A: I should start.
[00:32:09] Speaker C: You came close a couple times.
[00:32:10] Speaker A: You should have kept all the rings.
[00:32:11] Speaker B: I should have.
[00:32:12] Speaker C: Did you give them back?
[00:32:13] Speaker B: Yeah, she's giving them all back.
I throw them back. I don't give them back.
[00:32:19] Speaker C: I sold them.
[00:32:19] Speaker B: And with.
[00:32:20] Speaker A: I can't wait.
[00:32:22] Speaker B: I put it in the street and ran over it in front of him.
[00:32:25] Speaker A: Nice.
[00:32:26] Speaker C: Damn nice.
[00:32:28] Speaker A: I think Dick's dick was so cheap, and it's such a small, small ring that nobody will buy it back because he's so cheap.
[00:32:37] Speaker B: I wish I kept that one.
[00:32:39] Speaker A: Yeah, you should have kept it. I was talking to another friend of mine who said that that's what she's doing now. She's just collecting diamond rings.
[00:32:46] Speaker B: Should have.
[00:32:48] Speaker A: And as soon as she gets it, she's like, all right, bye.
[00:32:51] Speaker B: Oh, God.
[00:32:52] Speaker A: I was like, you know what?
I approve of this at this point because it's wild out there.
All right, well, we will, I guess. See you guys next week.
[00:33:04] Speaker C: See you next week.
[00:33:05] Speaker B: See ya.
