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All. Right.
Welcome back to Spill the Tea Unfiltered.
[00:00:36] Speaker B: How's it going?
[00:00:37] Speaker A: You know, it's.
[00:00:43] Speaker B: Like an update.
[00:00:45] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, we're gonna have it. We're gonna have a little bit of an update. We're gonna be talking about the court systems which we talked about a little bit about in our last episode. It kind of. It kind of touched on that.
Um, but yeah, so we'll just. We'll just jump into that.
So, Dick.
So I've been trying to serve Dick for almost a year.
[00:01:07] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:01:07] Speaker A: The. His place of work last summer was protecting him. Which is funny because then he gets fired or quit or whatever happened. Like forced to quit. Whatever the hell happened. Yeah, because no one leaves a job making 80k.
[00:01:20] Speaker B: No.
[00:01:21] Speaker A: Without like a reason. Well, that and also like 80k in Alabama and without a. Without a degree.
[00:01:29] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:01:30] Speaker A: So something happened. And so they protected him. And then for no reason, apparently, because then they got rid of him. Like, thanks for protecting him.
Well, it's hard. I don't know if anybody else can relate to this, but when you're trying to serve a deadbeat when they don't have an address because they live in.
[00:01:50] Speaker B: A camper van down by the river.
[00:01:53] Speaker A: Yeah, basically, it's hard to serve him. Well, he was living in his friend's backyard in said camper. And so I don't know if the people that were going to serve him were going up to the main house, even though I told them he was in the camper in the backyard. If they were going to the main house, then his friend's gonna protect him.
[00:02:08] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:02:09] Speaker A: And because, well, as we know, they.
[00:02:12] Speaker C: Their little lovers.
[00:02:14] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah.
[00:02:15] Speaker C: Lover boys.
[00:02:16] Speaker A: You walk. You walked into. What did you walk into?
[00:02:18] Speaker C: Oh my gosh. Because. Tell me what guy walks in and talks to his friend while he's in the bathtub. Like full blown conversation. Dude's just swimming in the bathtub.
[00:02:25] Speaker B: We're talking a bubble bath.
[00:02:27] Speaker C: Talking about talking to bubble bath. Yes.
[00:02:29] Speaker A: His friend takes bubble baths, which. Okay. But also, you know, my ex did too.
[00:02:35] Speaker C: And we all know what happened there.
[00:02:36] Speaker A: That's true. And Dick walks in and just starts having a full on conversation.
With him in the bubble bath. In the bubble bath.
[00:02:42] Speaker B: Now I have more questions. Was this like an, like an Epsom salt bath cuz his back hurt or was this a normal occurrence?
[00:02:50] Speaker A: I'm going to guess normal occurrence.
[00:02:52] Speaker C: I didn't ask, but looked. I mean, I think he was a little comfortable.
[00:02:57] Speaker A: Yeah. To just like roll up in the bath while your friends just stick it in the bath.
[00:03:01] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
[00:03:02] Speaker C: Stuff.
[00:03:03] Speaker A: And I mean, to be fair, I asked him before if he was gay for him. And whenever we got a huge fight like two years prior and he got real mad, like he got super defensive.
[00:03:14] Speaker C: It is really funny though, because he talks so much trash about that guy.
[00:03:20] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:03:20] Speaker C: Like, if that guy knew how much trash he talked about him, there's no way that he would protect him. Like, he wouldn't have him living at his place because he would dog him.
[00:03:31] Speaker A: Out so hard all the time. Like, he constantly talked trash. And I'm like, this is a man who is letting you live in his backyard for free, basically.
[00:03:38] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:03:39] Speaker A: And he constantly talked trash about him.
[00:03:43] Speaker C: Talked about how that guy treated his baby mama and how it wasn't right.
[00:03:47] Speaker A: Oh, yeah. And he would talk trash even when we were married. He'd talk trash about him and be like, ol. He just, you know, constantly wants me to help him with stuff and blah, blah, blah, and it's just so annoying. And.
[00:03:57] Speaker C: But then his mom's a stripper, apparently.
[00:04:00] Speaker A: Oh, I didn't know that one.
[00:04:01] Speaker C: Yeah, he told me his mom was a stripper. I said, good for her. How old that money?
[00:04:04] Speaker A: Who know? I. I thought she was dead, so. So who knows?
Well, but his friends, his friend cheated on his baby mama all the time. And so Dick would constantly talk about him and be like, oh, he's a piece of trash. Constantly cheating on his baby mama. And then of course, turns out Dick's also cheating on me.
[00:04:20] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:04:21] Speaker A: But you know the fact that he's constantly talking trash about his friend. Yeah, constantly. And this man keeps, like letting him come over and like crash with him every time he gets kicked out of a woman's house, watch him take a bubble bath and then watch him take a bubble bat. It's real weird.
[00:04:36] Speaker C: So, yeah, called him very needy.
[00:04:38] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:04:38] Speaker C: Which I think I was a little weird. I'm not gonna lie. I had a bike night. I didn't eat my pulled pork sandwich. First day we met, he took my sandwich off my plate and ate it. So I don't know. It was a little weird, I guess. Probably. I don't remember, but it was just Weird to me altogether, even if you ask.
[00:04:55] Speaker B: I wish somebody would take a sandwich off my plate. I'm hungry.
[00:04:58] Speaker C: I was not hungry. I don't really like pulled pork.
[00:05:01] Speaker A: Well. But he's weird. He is very weird. You never got to meet him, but he'.
[00:05:04] Speaker B: Thank God nobody has Creep my stuff.
[00:05:08] Speaker A: He was stalking her, apparently. Yeah, he is, but so is Dick. He was. He was stalking her.
[00:05:13] Speaker B: Yeah, he got blocked real quick on everything.
[00:05:15] Speaker A: But if he's. If he's stalking this, he should know. Dick talks about you constantly, so if you decide you want to rat him out, let me know where he's staying.
But, yeah. So back to it is, you know, he was in the backyard, and I guess they tried to serve him all December.
And I'm starting to wonder now if that's why he left, because they kept showing up at the door and his friend was protecting him.
[00:05:41] Speaker C: Yep.
[00:05:41] Speaker A: So supposedly now he's somewhere in nowhere, Tennessee, supposedly working under the table because he doesn't want to pay people.
He hasn't paid child support in months for the one kid he actually pays for, and he obviously hasn't paid me.
I think he's just thinking it's gonna just go away or, like, if enough time passes, I'll give up. But I was talking about. Yeah, he doesn't know me very well. No, I was talking to my attorney about it, though. But it's really frustrating that dead beats and these men can just run and hide, similar to the last story, that they can just like, disappear and go awol, if you will, and hide and. Because they can't be served by paper in 2026.
[00:06:23] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:06:24] Speaker A: Then they get away with this. Like, how. Why don't we send an email and put a read receipt on it?
[00:06:29] Speaker B: That's exactly what I was fixing to say. Like, permanent read receipt where they cannot choose whether it's right.
[00:06:34] Speaker A: A permanent reset as soon as it's open.
[00:06:36] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:06:37] Speaker A: And don't put anything on the. Like on the description that will make them be like, oh, what should. Should I open this?
Make get it to where they'll actually open it and then put a reader receipt on it. And then bam, that's it. I'm like, it's 2026. And the thing is, is they're like, well, we can't prove that they're the ones that opened it. Okay.
But they know what they're doing is wrong because they're purposely evading.
[00:07:00] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:07:01] Speaker A: So if you know, they already know, so why do we have to serve them? Because he's already broke the Law.
[00:07:07] Speaker B: Exactly.
[00:07:08] Speaker A: So I'm like, you are in contempt of court. Why do I have to serve you to put a warrant out for your arrest?
[00:07:14] Speaker B: I already have one.
[00:07:15] Speaker A: Correct. You broke the law. You should immediately have a warrant.
[00:07:18] Speaker B: Right.
[00:07:18] Speaker A: It should not be this hard.
[00:07:20] Speaker B: So why have they not put one out for that?
[00:07:22] Speaker A: Because he has to be served.
[00:07:23] Speaker C: That's so dumb.
[00:07:24] Speaker B: Contempt. Of course.
[00:07:25] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:07:26] Speaker C: So if anybody sees him on the, you know, the Facebook dating pages and wants to, like, set up a date, you know, whatever, so we can serve him, let us know in the comments. Okay.
[00:07:38] Speaker A: We're looking for some help where he's at. Well, right. That's the. Because if he's in a camper who knows where he's at, he's using his friend's address as his permanent address. I do know that.
And in Alabama, you what, five years for a license. So he's not gonna have to technically change. You're supposed to change your address.
But he's probably not going to for the next five years.
So you have.
[00:08:02] Speaker B: You're supposed to change it 30 days after you move.
[00:08:04] Speaker A: Right?
[00:08:05] Speaker B: I have not. Because.
For reasons. But mine has not been changed.
[00:08:09] Speaker A: But a lot of people don't.
[00:08:10] Speaker C: You only have to update it on the ayah.gov website, so you don't have to actually change your license every time anymore.
[00:08:18] Speaker B: But people can still find that. And I don't want my address.
[00:08:20] Speaker A: Well, that's why. That's why he hasn't.
[00:08:22] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:08:23] Speaker A: And. But also, I don't even know if he has an address.
[00:08:25] Speaker B: Probably not.
[00:08:26] Speaker A: Because the I'm. The stuff I'm hearing is like, he's working under the table. He might be living in a hotel. He might be living in a camper.
[00:08:32] Speaker B: We don't.
[00:08:32] Speaker A: Down by the river, literally. And. But my thing.
[00:08:35] Speaker C: I'm happy drones.
[00:08:36] Speaker A: I do, too. God, I really do. Because at the end of the day, like, I was talking to my dad about it, and I was like, daddy, if I'm not going to get my money anyway, then he needs to just, poof, cease to exist.
[00:08:47] Speaker B: We're taking this off now.
[00:08:49] Speaker A: We're not. And my dad. And my dad was like. My dad goes. I agree. And, you know, my daddy. My daddy's a good man.
And I like your dad. He's a. He's a sweetheart. And he was just like, yeah, I agree with that, because that's how, like, you know, twisted.
But I was literally like. I was like, it's great that our constitution is protecting deadbeats is what I texted my attorney, and he goes, he was like, yep, it's a good time.
And I was just like. Because, like, his hands are tied. All of our hands are tied at this point in time.
I will find a way.
[00:09:23] Speaker C: I'm sure that a lot of women who aren't receiving their child support feel the same way too.
[00:09:27] Speaker A: Well, and that's just it. Like, I'm like, women, we gotta start figuring this out. Like, you know what we should. Oh, you know what we should do? We should create a Facebook where women help women find the dead beats so that they can be served.
Million dollar idea.
Just saying, like, women in all these areas helping each other, like, get the deadbeat served because they're constantly hiding because they don't want to do anything. I was talking. I was talking to somebody the other day and told me a story that their deadbeat ex husband didn't pay child support for the two kids the whole time and would constantly. Every six months was moving, like, constantly moving around. They couldn't. They couldn't find him, Right.
[00:10:12] Speaker B: Oh, my God.
[00:10:14] Speaker A: Finally, years go by, the kids are grown out of the house.
[00:10:17] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:10:18] Speaker A: He starts drawing Social Security because he's of the age to draw it. And now half of it is getting pulled and it's happened. He's having to back pay it to her, to the kids.
[00:10:27] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:10:28] Speaker A: For the 18 years.
[00:10:29] Speaker B: Good.
[00:10:30] Speaker A: So he's losing half his Social Security. And I'm like, great, that's great. But they shouldn't have had to wait.
[00:10:33] Speaker B: Nope.
[00:10:34] Speaker A: Until then. So that woman had to suffer by herself and make ends meet for two kids for 18 years, and now they're getting some restitution for it. Yeah, but, like, it shouldn't take that long.
[00:10:49] Speaker B: Can you go back 18 years on child support?
[00:10:52] Speaker C: It never goes away.
[00:10:53] Speaker B: I didn't know if there was like a certain, like, period that you could go back or not.
[00:10:56] Speaker A: I think it depends on the state. I also think it depends on if you were actively trying to pursue it the whole time. Because if you weren't actively trying to pursue it, at least I know in Alabama, if you weren't actively trying to pursue it, I think you can only go back two years.
[00:11:06] Speaker B: Gotcha.
[00:11:06] Speaker A: But if you were actively trying to pursue it the whole time, like this person was, then they. They still have to pay it. But I'm just like, these men don't need to be in jail. Like, why are we arresting people that smoke pot? Put these people in jail.
[00:11:18] Speaker B: Like, absolutely.
[00:11:18] Speaker A: These guys are making women and kids lives a living hell.
[00:11:22] Speaker B: Yeah. I mean, it's hard to support yourself. Let Alone, yourself and two kids.
[00:11:26] Speaker A: Right. Well. And even in my situation, he's made it to where I'm having to take some big financial changes that are affecting me in a very negative way because he's left me with no choice. Right. And it's bullshit that the man who cheated on me with 20 plus fucking women because he had fucking dick issues and had hidden children who, if I would have known about that, I wouldn't have married him in the first place. So I didn't have all the information when I married this man. And who got me in massive amounts of debt and legally signed paperwork saying that he would pay me.
[00:12:01] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:12:01] Speaker A: Isn't paying me. And so I'm suffering financially because of it.
[00:12:06] Speaker B: Yep.
[00:12:06] Speaker A: It's.
[00:12:07] Speaker B: I wonder if that's why he quit. His job was just so he couldn't be traceable.
[00:12:10] Speaker A: Probably.
[00:12:10] Speaker C: Absolutely.
[00:12:11] Speaker A: Like, if he quit, I think they were probably. It was probably a situation because multiple times I've learned now that he told me that he was going to like, that he was miserable or whatever. And so he was quitting was because he was about to be fired. So I found out like, sketchy stuff.
[00:12:30] Speaker C: When we were together. Like, he kept using a card that was Sam's. He said it was a Sam's Club card for his mom. But then I later found out that his mom doesn't even have a Sam's Club in the town she lives in. But it was like really, really sketchy stuff because he would buy this stuff and then he'd want to return it.
And it was think that he was like bringing in contraband and using those people's cards as a way.
[00:12:57] Speaker A: And one. Well, one woman commented that he was sleeping with multiple women at the prison too, because they hired a bunch of women that worked there.
And so one woman commented that. So it could have also been that situation where he was causing drama and causing issues. So they were probably like, he probably got in trouble and instead of owning up to it or dealing with the punishments, he quit because his dad worked at a company with him at one point for like three months and before he quit because. And it was always their fault. And it turns out like, no, he was just doing a horrible job. And so he was gonna lose his job. And then I. Same thing with the. He told me he got laid off from another company when we were married. And I found out later from someone who works there that he wasn't laid off, he was fired.
[00:13:41] Speaker C: So.
[00:13:41] Speaker A: So imagine that.
[00:13:43] Speaker C: Shocker.
[00:13:44] Speaker A: I think. I think he was calling out, like, apparently he called out all the time. And he was going to women's houses, so he was telling me he was at work, but he was going to women's houses, so he was calling out sick all the time. Yeah, so he's a horrible worker.
So he's lazy.
[00:13:58] Speaker C: Commitment issues.
[00:13:58] Speaker A: He does. He has commitment issues to the.
He didn't finish high school. He has commitment issues to high. To school. He has commitment issues to women. He has commitment issues to jobs. Like, he has commitment issues to children. Like, he does not know how to just commit to one thing.
And no one has held him responsible until now.
And it's. But it sucks that I'm the one that's having to deal with it and, like, get it and punish him because he truly is, like, probably like, God, hopefully she'll just give up. And I'm like, you know what? If I have to wait till you retire and I get your Social Security and when we're in our damn 60s, I will.
[00:14:30] Speaker B: Yeah, I don't blame you.
[00:14:31] Speaker A: Like, I'm just. It's the most annoying thing in the world, so. And I'm not the only one that deals with it. We have somebody that sent in for us.
[00:14:42] Speaker B: We do. So we know a little bit of her backstory already, but she has chimed in about the court system. She talks about how horrible it is, and she says we talk about justice, but no one ever listens to the victim. Personally, I. I was looked at as someone who is just a victim and not as a human being. It sucked not being heard in a case that I was involved in where I was a victim of domestic violence.
The prosecutor never even looked at me or acknowledged me. Not only that with criminal court, but with family court. I've been going back and forth with family court to get services in place. No one considers the fact that I'm taking off work to be present at these court dates and then having to reschedule it or telling me to not do anything but wait for another six months. Had they listened, I wouldn't be going back to court again to get my services in place for my case.
And then my case got moved to a later date and time and I'm having to go back again.
I'm basically out of PTO because of all the court proceedings. And no one is considerate of the victim's times. I hear stories all day about how our court system fails people because I work within the court system now. I have lived it firsthand and understand completely how it is so time consuming and mentally draining. I got screwed in criminal court because they never gave any of the services that I requested. And that's why I'm having to go back to family court for a third time. But technically the fourth time, because my case got transferred and now moved to another date.
[00:16:07] Speaker A: You know, that's insane. And the fact that she's in the system. Right. And then is still having to, like, deal with it. So she doesn't even have any. Like, she has no connection.
[00:16:17] Speaker B: No connections.
[00:16:18] Speaker A: Yeah. Because. And it's. The court systems are so backed up and they're so jacked that they're constantly punishing. It is a constant punishment of the victim. Constantly. So these deadbeats and these women beaters are getting away with everything.
[00:16:34] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:16:34] Speaker A: Because the court system's just like, oh, we'll figure it out. Like, we'll just push it back to another date.
[00:16:40] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:16:40] Speaker A: What?
[00:16:41] Speaker B: It's sickening.
[00:16:42] Speaker A: And like. Yeah. Like she said, like, you have to use PTO and all that other stuff. Like, it's insane to me.
[00:16:49] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:16:49] Speaker A: And, you know, at the end of the day, like, our course system is very, very broken. Do not get me wrong, our court system is 100% broken. In my situation and her situation and the situation we had last week, if these men weren't trash and would just own up to their. And stop being cowards and pieces of.
Then maybe everything would go a little smoother.
[00:17:13] Speaker B: Yeah. If their parents would have raised them correctly.
[00:17:16] Speaker A: Well, even then, some people get raised right. And they still turn out to be psycho. That is very true.
[00:17:20] Speaker C: Absolutely.
[00:17:21] Speaker A: Because your friends end up influencing you a lot, too, like who you surround yourself with. But I'm like, yes, mothers often enable, especially moms of narcissistic men, but it's sometimes fathers, too.
[00:17:34] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:17:34] Speaker A: Or the father wasn't there, which is a lot of it, too. So then they also turn around and just do it again and not be there for their kids. It's just a while. It's wild to me. That's because we would never do this.
We wouldn't have done it in the first place. We would have never treated any. Any man like they've treated us.
But then also, like, we would own up to, like, anything that we did, and these men won't do that. And so then we get punished. Having to go through court a million times, having to constantly keep attorneys on retainer, having to do all this shit to get what we were owed.
[00:18:09] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:18:10] Speaker A: And I'm not even fighting for a kid, so I can't even imagine what she's going through. Having to deal with fighting for a Child after being dealing with domestic violence. Yeah. To me, immediately, if someone that. Why? Why is the woman not getting full custody immediately?
[00:18:28] Speaker B: That does not make sense. If he's going to do it to her, he's going to do it to the child.
[00:18:32] Speaker A: Yep.
[00:18:32] Speaker B: Like, nothing is going to stop him.
[00:18:34] Speaker A: Right. Like, why would we trust him with a kid? But either way, like.
[00:18:39] Speaker C: But there are systems where. And I'm not saying that that's her case, but there are cases where women will leave a relationship, say they're being hit, and then the man doesn't see the kid for two or three years in between fighting. So they're, you know. But they have to do the dual.
[00:18:55] Speaker A: What do you do?
[00:18:56] Speaker C: Yeah, exactly. What do you do?
[00:18:58] Speaker A: Because the due process is.
[00:19:00] Speaker C: Yeah, it is.
[00:19:00] Speaker A: And in her situation. Because we do know her full story.
[00:19:03] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:19:04] Speaker A: She was actually hit.
[00:19:05] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:19:06] Speaker A: And beat.
[00:19:06] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:19:07] Speaker A: And in front of the kid.
[00:19:09] Speaker B: Yeah. While holding the child.
[00:19:11] Speaker A: Right. So I'm like, in that situation immediately, she should have full custody. I shouldn't even need to go to court. What do you need to go to court for?
[00:19:19] Speaker B: Exactly. Yeah. And he's even offered to give up custody.
[00:19:23] Speaker A: Then he should. And then why are we going to court?
[00:19:25] Speaker B: Exactly.
[00:19:26] Speaker A: Like your mouth is.
[00:19:27] Speaker B: Save it.
[00:19:28] Speaker C: Yeah. Right. Let's do this right now.
[00:19:31] Speaker A: Like, but even then, it would take 10 years to push it through court.
[00:19:34] Speaker B: Probably because he wouldn't sign the papers.
[00:19:36] Speaker A: Right. He either wouldn't sign the papers or the judge would take forever to sign the papers. Because I think that's part of what happened with me is I think because it was December, the judges took forever to sign the contempt of court because they're all on freaking vacation or whatever they're doing. And I just. And unfortunately, our judges suck. Yeah.
[00:19:53] Speaker B: I'll say it for you. Our judges suck. Madison county judges. You suck.
[00:19:58] Speaker A: Yeah. It's true. And specifically, there are a few who we've really suck who. Who hate women.
[00:20:05] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:20:05] Speaker A: And we know that they do because we've heard the stories from other women locally who have had to deal with that. And they have a reputation among attorneys.
[00:20:12] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:20:12] Speaker A: And. Well.
[00:20:13] Speaker B: And they feel threatened. Like, if they make one wrong, if they breathe the wrong way, shit's going to hit the fan and not go in their favor.
[00:20:21] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:20:21] Speaker B: And that's scary.
[00:20:22] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah. Women shouldn't have to feel like that to be able to keep your child.
[00:20:26] Speaker B: No, absolutely not. Especially whenever there's no. Like, you haven't done anything, like, to put that child in harm's way.
[00:20:32] Speaker A: Yeah. And you have a man who cheated it's wild.
[00:20:35] Speaker B: Or beat the hell out of you.
[00:20:36] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:20:37] Speaker C: And sometimes, like, you know, the man will get custody and there's. They'll use that to continue to abuse their ex partners.
Because I've definitely seen that firsthand where they use that as a way to continue.
[00:20:50] Speaker B: We had one last season that was like, that.
It was really sad because you could just feel like, how she was genuinely scared.
[00:20:58] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:20:59] Speaker B: Like, and I wasn't even in person. I was, like, doing it virtually and I could. Like, it's just.
[00:21:03] Speaker A: She was terrified and she's still dealing with it.
[00:21:05] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:21:05] Speaker C: I know somebody. He fought and got custody of the child, and then now will not let her see her own child and uses that as a form of abuse. So.
[00:21:14] Speaker A: Yeah, see, and that's. That's just it. It's just like, why people use their children in the wrong ways all the time.
And, you know, you have that situation too, where the man, like, stops it from. From the mom from getting to see or. And vice versa. Some women keep the. The hus. The man from it. But also, sometimes I'm like.
Like in Dick's situation, I'm like, he needs to be monitored because when he's talking to his kid and you're. If you're depending on what. You know, how the conversation's going, like, if you're saying certain things and trying to, like, manipulate a child, that's a problem.
[00:21:51] Speaker B: Absolutely.
[00:21:52] Speaker A: And I feel like a lot of these men do that. Like, they're trying to manipulate the childhood or they just take a. Like, oh, see, I. I'm a proud. One of Dick's things. Proud parent.
I'm like, bro, you've seen your kid.
[00:22:04] Speaker B: Know how many has?
[00:22:05] Speaker A: Well, that too. And. But you've seen your kid less than a handful of times this entire year.
[00:22:11] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:22:12] Speaker A: And. But you want to be able to put it up there that you're a proud parent.
[00:22:15] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:22:16] Speaker A: But then you're telling women you're with her, but you're not because you're with other women.
[00:22:23] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:22:24] Speaker A: Like the one that he. The one that he was living right. Trying to move in with, then he parted the money from and then didn't pay her back.
Nate. She thought they were together all summer.
[00:22:36] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:22:36] Speaker A: He had told her multiple times that she. He was with his daughter. And then she gave me the dates, and then I went and looked at the calendar, and he was never with her. Not one time.
[00:22:46] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:22:47] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:22:48] Speaker C: He tell me all the time that he was going to pick up his daughter, do this and that, and I'm pretty Sure. He was just cheating on me.
[00:22:53] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:22:54] Speaker C: Which if he let me know, like, I didn't. You know, I have no feelings for him. We could. Could have ended it right then.
[00:22:59] Speaker B: Cheating on you with his wife.
[00:23:01] Speaker A: Yeah. And a bunch of other women.
[00:23:03] Speaker C: Gross.
[00:23:04] Speaker A: It's so gross. And, you know, I think that's when.
[00:23:06] Speaker C: I swear the next man that cheats on me, I'm cheating back. But I'm gonna hurt some feelings.
[00:23:10] Speaker A: My. My thing is, is I'm just like, I.
The disrespect. Especially with a lot of these men who won't wear safety at all.
[00:23:19] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:23:20] Speaker A: And, like, refuse to wear it.
And they don't take accountability. I was listening to something today, and it was like, men want to control women's bodies. Like, as we know, like, in politically.
[00:23:32] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:23:33] Speaker A: And then.
But also the same men who say things like, not your body, not your choice. It's my body, my choice. I don't want to wear a condom. And then I'm also not going to take responsibility for the child that's going in you.
Like, that's what is happening.
[00:23:49] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:23:50] Speaker A: It's.
[00:23:51] Speaker B: It's disgusting.
[00:23:52] Speaker A: Gross. It's so gross. And I'm like, you know how embarrassing it is to have to go to a doctor and be like, hey, I need to be tested for literally everything under the sun.
[00:24:00] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:24:01] Speaker A: I had to do blood. They had to do swabs everywhere. Yeah. I'm like.
Because I don't know if my husband gave me something.
[00:24:09] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:24:10] Speaker A: It's embarrassing as can imagine and gross.
[00:24:15] Speaker B: Yeah.
At least you were clean.
[00:24:17] Speaker A: Yeah. Part of me wishes I wouldn't have been so I could have sued him. Give me one that. Like one of those. Like, the healable opportunity. I know.
[00:24:24] Speaker C: Could have got a little bit clap.
[00:24:25] Speaker A: Yeah. Like, get some. Get something that's curable and then get to sue them, you know, But a.
[00:24:31] Speaker B: Bit of penicillin and you're good to go. Yeah.
[00:24:33] Speaker A: It's fine.
[00:24:34] Speaker C: Or a shot, you know, whatever.
[00:24:35] Speaker A: Yeah.
It's just. It's so annoying. So all that to say, like, you know, if you're dealing with the court system, you're not alone.
[00:24:44] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:24:45] Speaker A: It's. There's a lot of women that have. That have sent into us about the court system being broken.
[00:24:50] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:24:52] Speaker A: We know it is. We see it every day. And I'm sure you have, too.
But why can't these men be held accountable? Like, it's. Electronic serving needs to be a thing.
[00:25:03] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:25:03] Speaker A: I agree. It is 20, 26.
[00:25:05] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:25:06] Speaker A: If I can sign my taxes for the IRS electronically.
[00:25:09] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:25:09] Speaker A: Then we can electronically serve a man.
[00:25:11] Speaker B: Exactly.
[00:25:12] Speaker A: I'm like, and if you know what, send it to all the. I got a list of emails you can send it to.
Send it to all of them.
Like, yeah, I got a list of phone numbers.
[00:25:21] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:25:22] Speaker A: So we just need an address.
Don't have one.
[00:25:26] Speaker C: We'll get there.
[00:25:27] Speaker A: Because he's running. Oh, because I think. Did I tell you guys that about the email that I got?
[00:25:32] Speaker B: Told me.
[00:25:32] Speaker A: Yeah, from the creditor. I get an email he's not paying his bills.
I got another email from like some random.
What are they, like, collections agencies?
[00:25:44] Speaker B: Collections.
[00:25:44] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, like email, asking him for his collections. And I'm just like, bro, Bro. And his ex wife, his first ex wife got a phone call recently about. From a. Collections as well.
So, like, there's multiple collections all the way back from then.
[00:26:01] Speaker B: Were they telling her she was gonna get served? Was it like the voicemail that I got?
[00:26:05] Speaker A: Well, I don't know if it was that. She said that it was like a real number. She. So she sent it to Dick, but. But yeah, it. You know, she was like, this isn't my problem. Yeah, because it's not.
[00:26:17] Speaker C: Right.
[00:26:18] Speaker A: This is his issue. But like, he.
They reach out to people who they hope will be like, here, do something.
[00:26:25] Speaker B: And see, that's kind of what I'm afraid of.
[00:26:28] Speaker C: We'll just start calling the people, his contacts and threatening them. Yeah, I will take you to court then.
[00:26:34] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, you got. You got something from number two.
[00:26:38] Speaker B: The thing is, I've been here before. No, number two, I've been getting the voicemails for about like a year and a half to two years, but. Well, it actually may be longer than that because we were together. Whenever I got the first one, I was going in for an mri, standing out in the parking lot, and I got one, and I actually talked to the guy on the phone. He's like, here's the case number. Here's the phone number for the attorney's office. This is who you need to contact. He's like, you can also contact, like, I guess your local. I don't know if it was sheriff's department or something.
And I just was like, okay, whatever. Of course I told him about it, and he's just played it off like he didn't know anything. Well, this last one that I got, like, I've gotten several over the years. The last one that I got did the same thing. Gave me the case number, the phone number, and whenever I googled it, it came up as, like, sports management. And he had a sports gambling addiction, and it was just really weird.
[00:27:25] Speaker C: What's up with these men not paying their bills? Because didn't number three try to push off some bills on YouTube?
[00:27:30] Speaker A: Doctor bills.
[00:27:31] Speaker C: Yeah, the doctor bills.
[00:27:32] Speaker B: That was number two.
That was number two. Yeah.
[00:27:36] Speaker C: No, the children's.
[00:27:37] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:27:39] Speaker B: Oh. Oh, they're. Yes, though I thought you meant, like.
[00:27:41] Speaker C: So number three also likes to push off bills.
[00:27:43] Speaker B: Number three. He never paid them. And so it's like, I had to send. I got another.
[00:27:47] Speaker A: Paying their damn bills. Yeah.
[00:27:49] Speaker B: Like, I got another text like, hey, the kids. Dentist bills.
[00:27:52] Speaker A: I'm telling you, most men want a mommy. They want a mommy. That's all they want for their kids. Because these men have kids, and a lot of them that are especially single dads are, like, tired, and they're like, yeah, I need someone to take care of the calendar and the appointments and all this other stuff because they're irresponsible as.
[00:28:10] Speaker C: And.
[00:28:10] Speaker A: And they're not paying the bills.
[00:28:12] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:28:12] Speaker A: And it's wild.
[00:28:13] Speaker B: He did pay it, I'm assuming, after, like, I sent it. Because I told you, like, I sent him a screenshot of it with a text message, and I think it was about maybe three days to a week later. I tried to go back to the link, and it was gone. So I'm assuming he paid it or at least took it out of my name.
[00:28:28] Speaker A: Great. But why aren't you responsible enough to pay in the first fucking place?
[00:28:30] Speaker B: Yeah, exactly.
[00:28:31] Speaker A: And why. Why are these, like, collection agencies and, like, doctor's offices coming after the women?
Because they know the women are usually in charge of stuff because men can't take care of themselves when I was.
[00:28:42] Speaker B: The one who took them in there. So it was my name that was on there.
[00:28:46] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:28:46] Speaker B: So what?
[00:28:47] Speaker A: Yeah, a lot of stuff's been going around, like the Internet, about how women, for the first time, aren't having to marry for finances. We're marrying based solely on the personality and merit of the man. And that's why there's so many of us that are a woman single.
[00:29:02] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:29:02] Speaker A: And men are having a loneliness epidemic. And it's because for the first time ever, they're being held responsible and having to be their own adult.
[00:29:09] Speaker B: Yeah. Yep.
[00:29:11] Speaker C: It's absolutely why we don't need y' all anymore.
[00:29:14] Speaker A: No. If anything, you stress me out more because I have to keep up with your schedule too.
Right. I had to make a shared Google calendar for Dick, and he still didn't look at it.
[00:29:25] Speaker B: A shared Google account for what?
[00:29:27] Speaker A: For all his appointments and stuff. That I would make Henny still wouldn't look at it and would text me, when's that appointment?
[00:29:34] Speaker B: Oh, hell no. No.
[00:29:35] Speaker C: They send you reminders.
[00:29:36] Speaker B: Makes me itch.
[00:29:38] Speaker A: They're idiots.
I just.
They wonder why. And the only thing they ever say to us is, oh, well, you're just fat.
Oh, well, you're just angry. You're angry women and you're just fat. You're feminists and you're fat. No, I'm just not a fucking idiot. And I know how to run my calendar and do my job and I know how to function in society, and I don't need a man to do that. But men need women.
It's funny how that works.
[00:30:09] Speaker C: Real funny.
[00:30:10] Speaker A: This is how we're all gonna. This is why we're all gonna have a compound and just live in our compound with our cats and with Biggie.
[00:30:15] Speaker B: Paws and Lucy in a Chihuahua.
[00:30:19] Speaker C: No Chihuahua.
[00:30:21] Speaker B: I want a chichi.
[00:30:22] Speaker C: No.
[00:30:23] Speaker A: Didn't we say that we need to do a. I'm gonna do a chiweenie. There it is. It has to be mixed because we're not doing purebreds anymore because they have too many health issues. I don't think if it's mixed with true.
[00:30:33] Speaker B: Bite me earlier.
[00:30:34] Speaker C: Okay?
[00:30:36] Speaker B: He was gonna be the other day when I came over. Well, I could find a rescue.
[00:30:40] Speaker A: He's.
[00:30:40] Speaker C: He's sensitive, he's adapting. He got beat up by a raccoon. You leave that baby alone.
[00:30:45] Speaker A: Perfect angel baby.
Perfect angel. It is funny that a trash panda attacked him.
That would be a good video.
[00:30:55] Speaker C: Oh, my God. Y' all stop talking about my baby.
[00:30:58] Speaker A: She's like, I'm gonna go get him and put him in my arms.
[00:31:01] Speaker C: I know. If you wouldn't attack me.
[00:31:03] Speaker B: See?
[00:31:06] Speaker A: All right, well, so the moral of that story is, if you know where dick is, let us know. The court system fucking sucks. And men, you wouldn't be single if you would act better and not need a mommy and pay your bills.
Hey, yeah.
[00:31:22] Speaker C: Because C had a credit score of under 490.
[00:31:25] Speaker A: Hey, sounds like dick.
[00:31:26] Speaker C: I didn't even know you could get that low.
[00:31:29] Speaker B: God.
[00:31:31] Speaker A: We need to start checking the credit scores.
[00:31:33] Speaker C: That should be like. That should be public knowledge.
[00:31:36] Speaker A: Well, as soon as. As soon as you start dating somebody, be like, I need to see that credit score. Equal facts. Show me the equal facts.
[00:31:41] Speaker B: How are you going to pay for a dinner if you can't even pay your ex wife?
[00:31:43] Speaker A: The facts. And that's the thing is because he's not paying me and he's not paying for his child, he can still take women on dates because he's not doing those things. And so he's money is. He can trap a woman. Yeah, Still.
[00:31:55] Speaker B: And that money is not automatically being pulled away from him. He can use it however he wants to.
[00:31:59] Speaker C: Yeah, but he can't even afford to pay 400 in rent, remember?
[00:32:02] Speaker A: To. To his friend.
[00:32:04] Speaker C: To his friend, he doesn't even afford to pay.
[00:32:06] Speaker B: I wish my rent was 400.
[00:32:07] Speaker A: I've got me too.
[00:32:08] Speaker C: Me too.
[00:32:09] Speaker A: What World. And he couldn't afford that. But he was making 80k. What?
What were you spending your money on?
[00:32:14] Speaker B: Dates.
It would have been paid off if My rent was 400amonth.
[00:32:18] Speaker C: I mean, he was very generous when we were dating. He took me out to dinner, like.
[00:32:22] Speaker B: Every night on Lauren's credit card.
Thank you, Lauren.
[00:32:26] Speaker A: You're welcome.
[00:32:27] Speaker C: Those mozzarella sticks. Delicious.
[00:32:30] Speaker A: I mean, at least you have good taste.
Yeah, it's. It's wild. One day.
One day I'll get my money.
But until that day, we will keep doing this podcast.
All right, guys, well, well, see you next week. See you.
[00:32:45] Speaker C: See you next week.
