Episode Transcript
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[00:00:24] Speaker B: Hey, guys.
[00:00:25] Speaker A: Welcome back to Spill the Tea. Unfiltered.
[00:00:27] Speaker B: We're back.
[00:00:28] Speaker A: Here we are again.
How was your week? This week?
[00:00:34] Speaker C: Wasn't bad.
[00:00:35] Speaker A: Yeah, Same old, same old.
[00:00:37] Speaker B: College is still kicking my butt. Why did I go back?
[00:00:41] Speaker A: I don't know. I mean, I did it too, but I don't know. I don't know. You know what I was thinking what one of us should do is get our PI license. I can't, but one of you two should.
[00:00:52] Speaker B: I have a friend in Florida who has hers.
[00:00:54] Speaker A: Why the didn't you say that before?
[00:00:56] Speaker B: Because she's in Florida.
[00:00:57] Speaker A: She can still run Dick's stuff.
[00:01:01] Speaker B: I can ask. Yeah, I have thought about it, but I could ask.
[00:01:04] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, yeah, let's do that.
Because if not, I'm gonna make one of you two get certified so that we can run stuff.
[00:01:13] Speaker C: I am nosy.
[00:01:14] Speaker A: See, I think you'd actually be a good PI.
[00:01:16] Speaker C: Oh, I do, too.
[00:01:18] Speaker A: So just. Nice. I'm just.
[00:01:20] Speaker B: I am really good at finding out stuff.
I probably don't need the certificate, just a little bit of dedication.
[00:01:28] Speaker A: I mean, the thing is, that's the issue is I did a lot of open source searching and he still registered at his friends, and so that's the issue.
But my stuff.
PIs have access, as we know, to show you where they work and all that other stuff, where they live and everything. So we need that. So we're going to talk to your friend.
[00:01:51] Speaker C: Oh, I found you.
[00:01:53] Speaker A: That's right.
[00:01:54] Speaker B: That is true. Everything about me.
[00:01:56] Speaker A: Yep.
So, dating stories. You got one.
[00:02:01] Speaker B: So, yeah, I talked to this guy this week. You know, I'm really still not in the dating world. Not really dedicated to it, but I got bored and I got on the page. And that's my problem, is I listen.
[00:02:14] Speaker A: You two, and you're. I'm bored. I'm getting on the page. Read a book.
What is going on? I've never been bored. I've been like, let me entertain men.
No.
[00:02:22] Speaker B: Well, we're all very different purposes at this point. Okay? It's entertaining. Like, I get on because it's entertaining. I'm like, what funny stuff am I gonna See? Am I gonna see a guy wearing a diaper and a pacifier again, too? Yeah. Oh, hinge. That's why. That's why I'm swiping. If we're being honest, the one who.
[00:02:40] Speaker C: Acted like a baby.
[00:02:43] Speaker B: I just want to find the really funny one.
I want to see the funny shit they're sending.
[00:02:47] Speaker A: I'm like, at this point, I'm just gonna download it. Just a screenshot, profiles.
[00:02:54] Speaker B: Like, I don't care about actually meeting these men. Like, I just really want to see the funny stuff. But so this guy started messaging me and he's like, so, what brings you here? And I was like, honestly, I'm just bored.
And he's like, so you're just bored? And I was like. I was like, yeah. I was like, I'm really not in the dating world. I said, I really don't have any interest in it. I was like, this. The stadium world's gross. Like, I don't want no part of it. He said, so you're gonna ghost me by Tuesday? And I said, honestly, you'll be lucky to make it past today.
And he was like, ouch. So, like, we get to start to talking.
[00:03:32] Speaker A: And that was from Alabama right there. We get to start to talking.
[00:03:37] Speaker B: Okay, you can stop judging me because.
[00:03:40] Speaker C: She'S been on my case for a year. Now is your turn.
[00:03:44] Speaker A: I love that I have my corn. I'm going to call you both my corn. My cornbreads were your corn muffins?
[00:03:50] Speaker B: Yeah, only if you bring us cornbread every once in a while with some chili. Okay.
[00:03:55] Speaker A: Anyway.
[00:03:57] Speaker B: Anyways, yeah, so we get to start to talking, and he's telling me a little bit about himself, and he's telling me about how, like, he's been divorced a few times. And he goes on to say that one of his ex is, like, super crazy and that apparently, like, she puts a piece of a band aid, he said over her camera on her phone so that the government can't see what she's doing or whatever. He's telling me that she's crazy and, like, going on and on about it. I'm just like, okay, whatever.
Well, to be fair, they probably can.
[00:04:31] Speaker C: They are.
[00:04:32] Speaker A: You can remotely turn on cameras.
[00:04:34] Speaker B: So, yeah, I just don't care.
[00:04:36] Speaker C: But what did she do?
[00:04:38] Speaker B: I don't know. I didn't ask. And I. To be quite frank, I don't care if they see me. Okay? You see my boobs? They're no different than anybody else's.
[00:04:45] Speaker C: Oh. They are living another life through my camera.
[00:04:49] Speaker B: I mean, they're not. If they make an only fans for me, give me a cut.
But that's all I ask.
But yeah, so he's telling me about that, and then he tells me he has four children. And I'm like, you know, mentally, I'm already like, yep, this is over. This conversation's done for us.
We're out.
[00:05:08] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:05:09] Speaker B: You have, oh, one. Well, four too many kids.
Not even one too many kids. You have four too many kids for me. Where obviously at this point, you're not gonna be able to travel. I mean, you're not gonna be able to do all the things that I love.
I only have a two bedroom apartment, so, like, I don't know where you'd put all four of them either.
[00:05:28] Speaker A: You know, my thing is, is like, you can't afford all those plane tickets.
[00:05:31] Speaker B: So you probably can't afford to take me out to dinner at that point.
[00:05:34] Speaker A: Yeah, right.
[00:05:35] Speaker C: They all have the same mom.
[00:05:37] Speaker B: I don't even. I didn't ask because I no longer cared.
[00:05:40] Speaker A: Okay. As soon as she was like, and out four kids.
[00:05:43] Speaker B: And I was like, okay, cool over this. Well, then he goes on to tell me.
So he was asking me a little bit about myself or whatever and had made a joke about therapy. And he said, oh, well, you're an HR and you're in therapy. What other red flags do you have? And I said, well, actually, therapy is a green flag.
[00:06:05] Speaker A: Or not to a man, because then they'd have to admit that they need to go.
[00:06:08] Speaker B: Yeah, right. I said, I think it's a red flag that you think therapy is a red flag.
[00:06:14] Speaker A: Absolutely.
[00:06:15] Speaker B: Well, then he was like, oh, well, I do do a little therapy myself.
Have you ever heard of the AAA program? And I'm like, yeah, my whole child.
But we won't get into all that drama.
But so he was like, yeah. He said, I'm an A.
And I was like, okay. I was like, so, like, how. What coin are that? Like, how long have you been sober? He said, five years.
And I was like, okay, cool. I said, well, this is a really good time to tell you that due to my previous experiences, I no longer date addicts. And it's nothing against you.
[00:06:51] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:06:52] Speaker B: And I wish you the best. And I'm so happy that you chose to get clean. I said, but I've had some really bad experiences. And at this point, I just want somebody that really relates to me on every level and has the same personality characteristics that I have. And one of those is that, like, I'm not addicted to anything except for food. Food girl saying, yeah, coffee. Like, but like, I've never.
Like, I just don't have that type of personality. And it does. Like, it's different traits for different people. And I.
I don't want to be back in a relationship where they're telling me they're sober, but then come to find out a few months later they're sneaking the alcohol in the closet or, you know, instacarting it to their hotel when they're working on the road. Because I've done been through all that, Right. I'm not driving another person to rehab. I'm like, we're just doing this.
[00:07:41] Speaker A: This go around.
[00:07:42] Speaker B: I'm not. I'm not standing in line getting a bottle of vodka every other day. We're not doing this.
[00:07:47] Speaker C: No.
But.
[00:07:49] Speaker B: So I tell him that. And obviously, even though I say, you know, I wish you the best and all the kind words, he was like. He's like, oh, well, your loss, my win. And I'm like, but is it.
I don't really think it's a loss.
I think that we can just agree that we are not right for each other.
[00:08:07] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:08:07] Speaker C: That's just your personal preferences. There's nothing wrong with that. Just like, he has his own. Like, we respect.
[00:08:12] Speaker B: Just met. Like, we have not invested anything into this. Like, there's no reason for there to be hurt feelings here.
[00:08:19] Speaker A: Well, men. Men immediately just insult. That's like their go to is just to immediately insult you instead of just being like, oh, well, you know, hey, that's a. Like, I have boundaries and I have non negotiables. That is one of your non negotiables.
[00:08:33] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:08:33] Speaker A: And instead of just accepting that and being okay with it, they, like, take offense and get mad. And it's like, suppose they're not grown. Right. Because they need therapy.
[00:08:43] Speaker B: Because they need to be in therapy.
[00:08:44] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. Like real therapy, not aa. I'm talking. You need to talk to, like, a psychologist. Yeah, yeah, that's. Well, sounds like you dodged a bullet. Yeah.
[00:08:54] Speaker C: For real.
[00:08:54] Speaker A: There's that.
[00:08:55] Speaker B: And ladies and gentlemen, my name is Amber and I have been sober from men for one year.
[00:09:04] Speaker A: Actually, I'm almost sober for men for one year, too.
[00:09:06] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:09:06] Speaker B: I have not been on a date in a year.
[00:09:08] Speaker A: Yep, I'm almost there. It's great.
[00:09:10] Speaker C: I'm not.
[00:09:11] Speaker A: How about you?
[00:09:12] Speaker C: I'm not sober.
[00:09:13] Speaker A: Oh, well, we won't talk about that.
But yeah, it's.
That's wild. Men are wild. I was getting my nails done and sat next to this woman today, and it was great. And she she basically told me like, her son is a walking red flag.
And yeah. She was like, my son's awful. And I was like, that's amazing that you know that. Own that. And like she's like, to the point that like, she doesn't even have a relationship with him anymore because she's like, cut him off because he's so bad.
[00:09:49] Speaker B: I love that though. Like, she's not an enabler.
[00:09:52] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:09:52] Speaker B: Yeah. I love a lot of these narcissist mothers.
[00:09:55] Speaker A: That's what I told her and I told her and I'm hoping she'll write in her full, the full story because I told her, I said, I think that this is a great, great thing to bring in because we are opening this up to family members and like, your children can be toxic.
[00:10:06] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:10:07] Speaker A: So some of your children might need to be cut off. And it sounds like that's the situation she was in. To the point that like, he also like dick has hidden children. He's been on are we dating the same guy a million times is currently on there like today.
[00:10:20] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:10:21] Speaker A: And so like it's.
He's cheated on everybody.
He uses his children for gain to like take photos with them, but then like doesn't see him for a year. So that when he is on dating apps he can put pictures of him with his kids and stuff. Like, it's just a really toxic situation. But I loved that she, like didn't back it. Unlike, unlike my mother, ex mother in law who was like 100 on his side and just helping protect him. Like this other, this woman was like, no, like, I didn't raise him this way. I don't know why he turned out to be the way he did. She's like, I think he just like hung out with some, some bad people. And she said, she said that his father, her ex husband, was a narcissist. So she's like, he probably learned a lot of it from his dad.
[00:11:03] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:11:03] Speaker A: She's like, but whenever we split when he was still a kid and she's like. And I tried, but yeah, she's like, you know, I can't control everything and he's a grown man and he's still acting that way. So good on her.
[00:11:14] Speaker C: Yeah, absolutely.
Well, we have another story today. All right, so this one writes in. Hi, ladies. I thought you would get a kick out of the story of my parents divorce. All of the details are a bit too much to type out all at once, but I'm going to share a little bit of a summary for you.
My parents met in college, were married at 21 and were mostly happily married for about 21 years.
Over the later years, my dad's behavior towards my mother, my brother and I, but mostly myself and my mother, became increasingly aggressive and eventually outright abusive.
He never laid his hands on her, but he was just mentally exhausting and an emotional terrorist. He would get jealous if she spent too much time with me or her girlfriends, accuse her of cheating with absolutely no reason to think that was possible. Oh, basically telling on himself.
[00:12:02] Speaker A: Yeah. So he was cheating. Cool.
[00:12:03] Speaker C: Cool. And it got to the point to where we dreaded hearing his car even pull into the driveway afterwards.
[00:12:08] Speaker A: That must be exhausting, especially for her. Yeah.
[00:12:11] Speaker C: Can you imagine how much anxiety.
[00:12:13] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:12:13] Speaker C: Like that. And as a child, you don't really know what anxiety is. Or at least I didn't as a child. It's just like, a horrible feeling.
[00:12:18] Speaker A: And can you imagine? Like, her mom probably had it too, but was trying to keep it together for her.
[00:12:22] Speaker C: Yeah. It's like, now I have to deal with this. Like, had a great day and now I have to deal with this crap.
[00:12:26] Speaker B: Right.
[00:12:27] Speaker C: So she says after some time, his infidelity came to light in a very obvious way. On New Year's Eve, my mom, my dad, and my best friend's mom, a good friend of theirs, went out for the night. My dad began to dance inappropriately with my friend's mom.
And my mom, humiliated and disgusted, had her friend come pick her up and take her home.
On the way home, my mom got a butt doll from my dad, and she could hear the two having sex.
This was her final push to ask for a divorce.
[00:12:57] Speaker B: Oh, my God.
[00:12:58] Speaker A: My God. So it was her friend's mom. So the daughter's friend's mother lose my.
[00:13:07] Speaker C: Could you imagine a. But at first, it would take me a minute to realize what it was. Once it hit me. I know.
[00:13:16] Speaker A: Oh, my God.
[00:13:17] Speaker C: How long she listened for, I don't know.
[00:13:18] Speaker A: I would have started. I hope she recorded it, because I, like, I hope she took it to court. I hope she used it in court.
[00:13:22] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:13:23] Speaker A: Like, I would have recorded it and, like, used it in court.
[00:13:26] Speaker C: That's insane.
[00:13:27] Speaker B: I'm gonna keep my comment to myself.
[00:13:31] Speaker A: You sure?
[00:13:32] Speaker B: No, I hope she wouldn't. I. I hope that she went after his best friend.
[00:13:38] Speaker A: After the divorce, though.
[00:13:39] Speaker B: Because you gotta get after the divorce. But I. I don't know. I'm probably the only girl that's about to do that.
[00:13:44] Speaker C: But.
[00:13:44] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:13:46] Speaker C: Says throughout the chaos of the divorce fallout, my mom, through family, friends, and I, through some sleuthing found out the full scope of his escapades. He had not only slept with one of my best friend's moms, but two, as well as other women known by the family, women in other towns, and women near the military base where he would report for duty while in the reserves.
[00:14:06] Speaker B: Oh, military.
[00:14:07] Speaker C: There it total, we know of about six women that he had affairs with, some just as flings, and one which was years long, he told her he was going to leave his family for.
[00:14:17] Speaker A: Ah.
[00:14:18] Speaker B: Why did. Like, why do women even believe that anymore?
[00:14:21] Speaker A: One, shame on that woman, because that means that woman knows.
[00:14:23] Speaker B: Literally.
[00:14:23] Speaker C: Yeah, absolutely.
[00:14:24] Speaker A: So shame on her because any woman who is dating a married man because the woman, the wife doesn't treat him right.
Like, no, no, you have no idea what's actually going on in that house. The amount of times, like, women actually believe when a man's like, oh, my wife doesn't love me, but I'm with her because she'll take all my money, or whatever the hell the excuse is. Women stop believing these men. These men are trash. Like, they're cheating on their families. He. He was cheating on his entire family. And also, like, I kind of want to. Does it say anything about her friends? Like, was she still friends with these girls whose mothers he.
[00:15:03] Speaker B: I mean, it's not the friend's fault.
[00:15:05] Speaker A: No, no, it's not. But I'm just like, see, it says.
[00:15:07] Speaker B: But like, what's crazy about it with, like, the women who know about men cheating on them? Like, how can you believe that this man isn't going to do that to you when he's going home, he's telling that woman he loves them and then he's doing it to them, guess what? He's gonna turn around and do it to you. Because if he, quote, unquote, loves her and he's doing it to her, what do you think's gonna happen?
[00:15:26] Speaker A: Well, they don't think that. They say that. They'll be like, oh, we sleep in separate rooms. I don't. We haven't had sex. And it's like, you know, you had sex yesterday.
[00:15:32] Speaker C: Did her friends ever see him come?
[00:15:35] Speaker B: You know, if they were children, like, I guess they probably wouldn't think much about it.
[00:15:39] Speaker C: That's how old they were.
[00:15:40] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:15:42] Speaker B: Innocent minds, I guess.
[00:15:44] Speaker C: In short, I no longer have much of a relationship with him because of his horrific behavior. And he has never apologized or accepted responsibility, even though the evidence was undeniable. Both of my parents are remarried now. My mom married an amazing guy last year who my brother and I love like a father. And my dad remarried his high school girlfriend only three months after their divorce was finalized. And he didn't tell or invite my brother and I. Here's the fun part. She's also his cousin's ex wife, which makes my step siblings. I say that loosely. Also my biological cousins.
[00:16:19] Speaker A: Awkward family.
[00:16:21] Speaker C: How Christmas goes.
[00:16:23] Speaker B: Are they in Alabama? Because that sounds like some Alabama or what?
Or Kentucky.
[00:16:28] Speaker A: Yeah, I mean you could, you got, you got some incest going on all over the U.S. she said she looks.
[00:16:32] Speaker C: Forward to sharing more. Interesting.
[00:16:33] Speaker A: So we may follow up with her because I, I kind of want to know like one.
How old were the kids? Like, were they like teenagers? So like, did her friends know that their dad was sleeping with their mom? Were those women married?
[00:16:48] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:16:48] Speaker A: So then they're all cheating on each other.
Also like cousin, stepmom? What?
[00:16:55] Speaker B: Like are they in Jack, Alabama?
[00:16:57] Speaker A: I need more. I need more.
[00:16:58] Speaker B: Maybe that was the trailer I drove past.
[00:17:01] Speaker C: Maybe in the cornfield.
[00:17:03] Speaker B: In the cornfield.
[00:17:04] Speaker A: Maybe. Maybe it was. Yeah. It's so weird. Like that's, that's wild.
[00:17:09] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:17:09] Speaker A: But also good on you for not like forgiving your father, like, and just like accepting his behavior. Because again, these men, they, that's the thing is they end up with no consequences. And so then they just like think what they're doing is okay.
And I, I have a friend who's father cheated on her mom after they were together like 30 plus years.
[00:17:32] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:17:33] Speaker A: And he's upset because now he doesn't get to see his daughter's children anymore. His grandkids. And he's like upset that she's keeping them from him. And I'm like, bro. Yeah, what do you mean?
You completely threw away your family for what? You are in your late 60s, sir. You maybe have a few more years.
[00:17:53] Speaker C: Late 60s.
[00:17:55] Speaker A: And threw away his entire family.
You threw away your entire family for what?
[00:18:01] Speaker C: Trash.
[00:18:02] Speaker A: Like, I, I read something that said isn't the average age.
We're halfway through the average age of life right now.
[00:18:09] Speaker C: Yeah, I'm not.
[00:18:10] Speaker A: It's like 70 something. It's like mid-70s.
[00:18:13] Speaker C: Not me.
[00:18:13] Speaker A: 78, something like that.
[00:18:14] Speaker B: I mean, I thought I was going to die in my 20s. So we're, we're just glad up here.
[00:18:18] Speaker A: We'Re on borrowed time.
[00:18:19] Speaker C: I better see 105 at least.
[00:18:21] Speaker A: Oh God, no. Not me. Not me.
[00:18:23] Speaker B: I don't want to be here that long.
[00:18:24] Speaker A: Hell no, it ain't worth it.
But my thing is, I'm like at that age though. You're in your late 60s, you maybe have 10 good years left and you, like, threw your family away for another woman.
[00:18:37] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:18:37] Speaker A: Was it worth it?
[00:18:39] Speaker C: Like, be happy with what you have as long as you know it's not like abusive.
[00:18:42] Speaker B: Right at that point. Like, you done did this. Like, you're at that rocking chair point. Isn't that the goal for everybody anyways? We just want to be on the rocking chair.
[00:18:49] Speaker C: Yeah, but that's.
[00:18:50] Speaker A: That's my point is I'm like. I feel like a lot of these men even today are just like, you know what? I'm just. There's options out there and I'm bored. Or they like, there's something mentally going on where people don't know how to just be happy and content with their lives.
[00:19:05] Speaker B: It's like the unneutered cats, man, they're going to run out when I go hit up all the other cats.
[00:19:11] Speaker A: And it's like, men are like.
[00:19:12] Speaker B: Men are that way. Like, I'm like.
[00:19:14] Speaker A: And it's not like we're saying you should settle. Nobody should settle.
But, like, if you've been together for 30 something years.
[00:19:20] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:19:20] Speaker A: That should be your best friend.
[00:19:23] Speaker C: Your everything.
[00:19:23] Speaker A: Your everything, your kids, your grandkids. You should be going to the ballparks on the weekends, not cheating on your wife.
[00:19:31] Speaker C: Yep. Absolutely.
[00:19:33] Speaker A: What are you doing?
[00:19:33] Speaker C: It's disgusting.
[00:19:34] Speaker B: So, like, similar things that she took up for her mom and like, she stood beside her mom. I love that for her.
[00:19:41] Speaker A: And I'm so glad that her mom found somebody good.
[00:19:43] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:19:44] Speaker A: And that she loves her stepdad and that he's more like a father to her. Like, I love that for that family.
[00:19:49] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:19:50] Speaker A: I. And that's how it should be.
[00:19:51] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:19:52] Speaker A: And I hope that her dad wakes up miserable every day. But the thing is, like, I.
Are people like that? So do they actually. Are they miserable? Like, you know, people all the time will say that about Dick. They'll be like, yo, he's got to be miserable. I'm like, is he? Because I think that some people are so messed up.
[00:20:09] Speaker B: So they don't. They get a hatched to their emotions. I mean, like, for him to, like, remarry that other woman three months later and not even invite his children. So at that point, like, is his children his priority?
[00:20:23] Speaker C: I'm gonna say there's a reason he didn't invite his children because they were all still family. Well.
[00:20:28] Speaker B: Right.
[00:20:28] Speaker A: But also just like. Well, and I'm sure he knew his. His kids were pissed at him.
[00:20:32] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:20:33] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:20:33] Speaker A: And rightfully so.
[00:20:34] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:20:35] Speaker B: But like, to not consider his kids Feelings at all. Like, he just uprooted their entire family. He's getting with this other woman. He's marrying her three.
And then you're still not even. I'm sure the kids were young. Like, you're not even including them in any of it. So where they're already feeling uprooted, they're already feeling isolated. Now you're making it even more so. Like, did you care?
[00:20:57] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:20:58] Speaker A: No.
Yeah. I don't. I don't understand, like, at all. Like, this. This thought process. And I mean. And again, like, this is why there are a lot of women who are choosing to stay single. Because it's. It. What is the point anymore if these men that you see out there can be completely committed for 30 something years and then still throw it away?
[00:21:19] Speaker C: I don't get it. I do not understand it.
[00:21:21] Speaker A: I'm like, the risk is not worth the reward at that point. Like, it's just not worth it.
It's sad. And I think a lot of men.
Men don't know how to stay single because they can't. They can't stand being alone. They can't stand being single. And that's why they're pissed right now, is because women are like, no, we're good. Yeah. And they're pissed about it.
[00:21:44] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:21:45] Speaker A: And I'm like, be better if you want us to not do that. Like, stop cheating all the time. And it's not saying women don't cheat. Women do cheat. There are bad women out there.
[00:21:55] Speaker B: Oh, absolutely.
[00:21:57] Speaker C: Yep.
[00:21:58] Speaker A: But 99 of the time, the stories.
[00:22:00] Speaker B: I hear, I'm gonna cheat if I get cheated on again. Y' all got the warning.
[00:22:06] Speaker A: I just am never gonna date again.
[00:22:10] Speaker B: I'm really just talking my smack.
[00:22:11] Speaker A: Good. If anything, I'll be like, who wants to pay my bills?
[00:22:15] Speaker C: I'm gonna stay hopeful.
[00:22:17] Speaker A: Yeah, you do.
[00:22:18] Speaker B: Go ahead and stay hopeful.
[00:22:19] Speaker A: You do that.
[00:22:21] Speaker B: I'm gonna pour all my money into Biggie instead.
[00:22:24] Speaker A: I'm gonna pour all my money into our travels.
[00:22:26] Speaker B: Oh, and traveling.
[00:22:27] Speaker A: Yeah, we got a lot of travel traveling. We actually need to figure that out.
Yeah, we're gonna be traveling. That's what we're doing. We're. We're gonna. We're gonna travel and live our lives and not deal with that.
[00:22:41] Speaker B: Continue getting on the Hinge website just to see the funny photos.
[00:22:45] Speaker A: Just a screenshot.
[00:22:46] Speaker C: The man babies.
[00:22:47] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:22:47] Speaker B: Oh, my God, I can't wait to find.
[00:22:49] Speaker C: I know I took screenshots of that one because those are right when we first started the podcast, and I probably deleted them, but, dude, Literally had a diaper on. Yeah.
[00:22:57] Speaker B: He also had a bottle and a bottle and. No, he had a pacifier too.
[00:23:00] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:23:01] Speaker B: Like, where did he find a pacifier?
[00:23:02] Speaker C: The thing is, what I remember specifically about his profile was he. He was. Okay. If it wasn't just one person, it could be a couple that took him in and treated him like a baby.
[00:23:12] Speaker B: He had a crib, too.
[00:23:14] Speaker C: Yeah.
Like, does he work? Like, I have so many questions.
[00:23:22] Speaker A: I feel like this was a TLC episode. I swear to God.
[00:23:25] Speaker B: He probably was on DLC episode, but, like, it's legit. Some people have those weird kinks.
[00:23:30] Speaker A: I mean, listen.
[00:23:31] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:23:32] Speaker B: So I mean, like, one of my exes. I don't even think that's for.
[00:23:34] Speaker A: I'm thinking that's a mental health issue.
[00:23:36] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:23:37] Speaker C: There's a lot surpasses kink.
[00:23:38] Speaker A: There's a line with kinks and, like, mental health, like, if you're a Jesus was one thing. Kinking Jesus, that was one thing.
[00:23:46] Speaker C: This is a middle problem.
[00:23:47] Speaker A: This is. I think that it goes to, like, why are you dressing like a baby? Why are you. Why are you trying to revert?
[00:23:54] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:23:56] Speaker A: Maybe that's something we should ask the therapist.
[00:23:57] Speaker B: Sigmund Floyd would have loved this theory.
[00:24:01] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:24:02] Speaker A: Yeah, he would have, because there's a lot going on.
[00:24:04] Speaker C: We should do an episode on Man Baby with therapist.
[00:24:08] Speaker B: We should definitely get a therapist in on this. I have a lot of questions.
[00:24:11] Speaker C: Same.
[00:24:11] Speaker A: I do, too. We should do that. Well, we'll talk to them because. Yeah, that's so Man Baby.
[00:24:17] Speaker C: If you're listening, we got questions.
That's nasty.
[00:24:24] Speaker B: Did they poop in his diaper?
[00:24:25] Speaker A: Probably.
[00:24:26] Speaker C: Oh, night glass.
[00:24:27] Speaker A: Because I. That's what I'm saying. Like, on the TLC show, I'm pretty sure that they, like, got wiped. Like, they would go in their diaper and want someone to wipe them. It was a full on, like, baby situation. Oh, my God, I forgot what show that was. You remember that? Where they had, like, weird.
[00:24:41] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:24:41] Speaker A: Like, it was the one that was.
[00:24:42] Speaker B: Like, Strange Addiction or. Yeah.
[00:24:44] Speaker A: Like, one was married to a car.
[00:24:46] Speaker B: The girl.
[00:24:46] Speaker C: The carousel lady.
[00:24:48] Speaker B: Yes. And then toilet paper and then the.
[00:24:51] Speaker A: One who was married to a doll.
[00:24:53] Speaker C: Oh, yeah.
[00:24:55] Speaker A: Yeah. There's a lot going on. You know, I like to watch those shows because I remind myself that, like, I'm doing okay.
[00:25:02] Speaker C: We're normal. Yeah, we're normal.
[00:25:06] Speaker B: I don't know if I'm normal, but I'm definitely doing a little bit better than most.
[00:25:10] Speaker A: Yeah, there's, you know, we have a lot to be grateful for. Even though sometimes it doesn't feel like it. We still. We still do.
[00:25:18] Speaker C: We're doing better than a lot.
[00:25:19] Speaker B: I'm glad I'm not married to a car that guest.
[00:25:23] Speaker A: You know, Dick would have been. Dick probably would have married the bike if it would let him.
[00:25:28] Speaker C: So, yeah, it does have purple on it.
[00:25:33] Speaker A: Yeah. Because it was my favorite color.
[00:25:35] Speaker C: Exactly.
[00:25:35] Speaker B: Told me that was his favorite color.
[00:25:37] Speaker A: And he told another woman it was his favorite color.
[00:25:40] Speaker B: I thought it was super weird. I'm like, purple's your favorite color.
[00:25:42] Speaker A: Yeah. No, Purple's gonna have to get rid.
[00:25:45] Speaker B: Of this one if he's gonna be like the.
[00:25:47] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. Yes.
[00:25:49] Speaker C: Maybe it's purple because he wanted a lavender marriage.
[00:25:52] Speaker A: He is gay. Like, I'm just, like, waiting for it.
[00:25:54] Speaker B: Like, just like my ex.
[00:25:56] Speaker A: Dick, honey, you're gay and it's okay. Like, there's nothing wrong with being gay. I love.
[00:26:04] Speaker B: See, I.
[00:26:06] Speaker A: Hey, I have a lot of gay friends and I love them, and I love them, but stop wasting women's time. Stop abusing them, stop cheating on them, and just come out of the closet.
Bless it.
[00:26:21] Speaker C: Bless his heart.
[00:26:23] Speaker A: Seriously.
[00:26:24] Speaker B: I guess I don't need to introduce him to see, he does have the other. His best friend. I'm sure that's actually a thing going on.
[00:26:31] Speaker C: That bubble bath. Just. I got questions.
[00:26:33] Speaker A: That's what I'm saying. It's weird.
[00:26:35] Speaker B: You know, number C also took a lot of. A lot of bubble baths. And guess what?
[00:26:40] Speaker C: He was gay matter, too. And I'm a girl.
[00:26:43] Speaker A: Me too.
[00:26:43] Speaker C: So. Yeah.
[00:26:44] Speaker A: Yeah, that's what I'm saying. There's nothing wrong with men taking bubble baths. But just be honest with yourself. Just know who you are.
No, you're. You know, I do talk to my. My. One of my friends and I tell them all the time that is gay. And I'm like, lavender marriage, bro. Like, if we get to the point where, like, taxes are so bad that, you know, maybe we should just marry each other, we could.
[00:27:09] Speaker B: Hey, I could claim you on my insurance since yours sucks.
[00:27:12] Speaker A: Yeah, see, this is it. This is what's gonna have to happen because it's expensive out here and. But I'm not trying to marry a man and a boy child and deal with all that.
[00:27:23] Speaker B: No, I don't know. We might make too much together.
[00:27:26] Speaker A: That's true. I'd put us in a new tax bracket.
We wouldn't.
[00:27:31] Speaker B: We wouldn't qualify for any of the stimulus packages.
[00:27:34] Speaker A: We'd have to be like, I need a lot of write offs.
[00:27:37] Speaker B: Yeah.
Claim everything.
All the things biggie's now a dependent.
[00:27:43] Speaker A: Yeah, that's a s. Did you see that? They were. Somebody was trying to push that through.
[00:27:46] Speaker C: Yeah. Was it Philadelphia? I think.
[00:27:48] Speaker A: Yeah. I don't know, but I hope it goes through, because I don't.
[00:27:50] Speaker C: So push it. I'll be rich.
[00:27:52] Speaker A: I'm like, I won't, but I'll claim my two. I'll take them.
[00:27:55] Speaker C: I'm talking about with all her medical bills.
[00:27:57] Speaker A: Oh, yeah. I thought you were saying you were going to get a bunch more animals, which I wouldn't put past you.
[00:28:01] Speaker C: Oh, no. I'd love a Chihuahua, but we had this conversation last episode.
[00:28:05] Speaker A: You and your damn Chihuahuas.
If anybody has pictures of Chihuahuas, please post them for Bri.
[00:28:10] Speaker C: Please. Oh, my God. Please. Any dog, really. But I love Chihuahua.
[00:28:14] Speaker A: Yeah, post them for Brie so she can live through you and won't get one.
[00:28:19] Speaker B: Right.
Lucy's enough.
[00:28:24] Speaker C: Lucy could wear a little backpack that had the little Chihuahua in it, and she could just walk it around.
[00:28:28] Speaker A: I would actually like to see that, because I do not think Lucy would agree.
[00:28:31] Speaker B: No, I don't think she would.
[00:28:32] Speaker C: She wouldn't. But, you know.
[00:28:34] Speaker A: But it would be funny to watch her try.
[00:28:35] Speaker B: Lucy's so spoiled that you could not bring another dog in.
[00:28:39] Speaker C: She's had a brother before, and she loved him. Like, she absolutely adored him.
[00:28:43] Speaker A: I think it actually did. A boy.
[00:28:45] Speaker C: Yeah. I would have to. I don't think it'd be a girl. It had to be a boy.
[00:28:47] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:28:48] Speaker C: So speaking boy names lined up, Addie.
[00:28:50] Speaker A: Was beating the out of Monkin today. Like, beating him. And. And Mom's in town and they sleep with her when she's in town. And Addie wouldn't let Monken up in the bed last night. Every time Monkin got up, Addie got up and hit him across the face. And so Monkin had to keep getting down.
[00:29:09] Speaker B: He's so swee.
[00:29:10] Speaker A: She said, this is my grandma and not yours. That's what she was doing all night.
[00:29:14] Speaker C: Out of my bed.
[00:29:15] Speaker A: And then when I woke up this morning to get up and go to the gym, I opened the door and they were both sitting there. And then she looked at him and looked at me and hit him on top of the head and ran away.
There are enough drama. I don't need any humans because I have crazy kitties.
But. Well, that's a wild story, and we will definitely follow up because I definitely want to know what the hell's going on. But if you have any crazy stories about, like, your parents or your dad doing something insane, or your mom doing something insane, we'd love to hear it.
[00:29:46] Speaker B: Especially if there are any inbred stories.
[00:29:49] Speaker A: Yeah, that's wild. So keep those coming.
Definitely send us a DM or an email. We have our email and all our socials linked to YouTube, so let us know.
All right, guys, we'll see you next week.
[00:30:03] Speaker C: See you next week, Sa.
