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[00:00:00] Speaker A: Foreign welcome back to Spill the Tea.
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[00:01:49] Speaker B: You know, we got some updates.
[00:01:51] Speaker A: We have updates. You have updates.
[00:01:55] Speaker B: Lots of updates for us today.
[00:01:57] Speaker A: It is. So this is going to be a little bit different than our usual podcast. This is just going to be myself and Lauren giving updates on Dick.
[00:02:06] Speaker B: Yeah, mainly. Yeah, pretty much.
Lots of updates on, on Dick. Because I will say I've had some people that, that'll be like, why can't you just move on?
[00:02:15] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:02:15] Speaker B: And it's like, well, because he's still terrorizing other women.
That. And also I'm financially still really in a, in a. Yeah. In a spot because of him. So let me get my notes.
[00:02:26] Speaker A: There's a, that's bad when you have notes.
[00:02:28] Speaker B: There's a. There's a good amount. Now we give you snippets of Dick, like, yeah, almost every episode because something tends to come up almost every episode. But what's crazy to me is that most people have some semblance of a type, like whether it's an age range.
[00:02:47] Speaker A: Right.
[00:02:48] Speaker B: Or you know, a way somebody looks or hobbies that you have in common. Something.
[00:02:53] Speaker A: Yeah, absolutely.
[00:02:54] Speaker B: Dick doesn't, Dick doesn't even have standards, let alone I've had everybody from 23 year olds to 52 year olds come to me and say, and to each one he said, oh, I've always dated older women. To the 52 year old.
[00:03:12] Speaker A: Right.
[00:03:13] Speaker B: Also, she lived an hour and a half away from here.
And then to the 23 year old who also lives an hour and a half away from here in the other.
[00:03:19] Speaker A: Direction because he can't date in north Alabama anymore.
[00:03:23] Speaker B: You're welcome.
He.
He told the 23 year old the same thing. You want to hear something crazy, though, about what he told the 23 year old?
[00:03:33] Speaker A: Absolutely.
[00:03:34] Speaker B: He told her that he didn't want to use condoms with her because he wanted to impregnate her.
[00:03:39] Speaker A: Bless her heart.
That is insane.
[00:03:43] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:03:44] Speaker A: He already has children. He does not claim correct. So now he wants another one. He doesn't have to claim correct.
That is wild.
[00:03:51] Speaker B: And I don't know if it's just him telling women what he thinks they want to hear to try to like.
[00:03:56] Speaker A: Oh, yeah.
[00:03:56] Speaker B: But my thing is, is I'm like, why would you even say that knowing that you already have children? You don't claim.
[00:04:03] Speaker A: Because he's creating that trauma bond with them to make like that's his way of pulling them in. Like, oh, we're close. I love you so much. I want to have a baby with you. No, he don't.
[00:04:13] Speaker B: It's literal insanity. And.
Yeah. And disgusting. And I just like, I don't know.
So he also had cheated on her with. She knows from like 10 to 15 different people. Yeah. In a very short amount of time. So now I'm sitting here going, I know that he cheated on me with 20 plus people.
How high does that go? Because I was with him for years.
[00:04:35] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:04:36] Speaker B: So if he cheated on somebody who he was with a couple of months with 10 to 15 people. Right. Imagine how many people he actually cheated on me with. I felt so dirty last week when this woman reached out to me.
[00:04:47] Speaker A: I can imagine.
[00:04:48] Speaker B: Because I was just like, I'm so glad I got tested. And I was so lucky that I didn't have anything, but, like, I just felt so gross.
[00:04:58] Speaker A: I believe it. It's hard not to feel gross when you know he's just literally running through women back to back to back. And what kind of like triggers my mind is how many women in a day?
You know, because how are you entertaining that many women over the span? It has to be more than one a day.
[00:05:14] Speaker B: Yeah.
I mean, he's definitely talking to them more than one a day. But my question too was like, well, and this is how I figured out that I think he isn't working where he's working anymore. Because how do you talk when you can't have your phone at your job. Yeah, yeah. So he's constantly talking to these women and I'm like, something's not right here, you know? And then I got it confirmed.
[00:05:34] Speaker A: Yep.
[00:05:35] Speaker B: But by multiple. Multiple sources of women have reached out to me and told me that he left his good paying job and. Or got fired. We're still trying to determine which one that is. Somebody reached out and said that he was sleeping with multiple women who works where he worked.
And so my guess is something maybe happened with that.
[00:05:54] Speaker A: And that's got to be slim pickings for that place.
[00:05:56] Speaker B: It is, it is. There's not many options. So my, my thing is, is that it was probably something in that realm. But we've had women from Chattanooga, Nashville, Coleman, Gadsden, Birmingham, Montgomery, I think posted him once. Like, we have people that are all over the state of Alabama and up into Columbia, Tennessee, all the way up that have reached out and have posted this man. And so if you're in, I mean, he's probably heading to Georgia or Mississippi next because Alabama and Tennessee are running.
[00:06:27] Speaker A: I'm shocked he has not hit up Atlanta yet.
[00:06:30] Speaker B: I think that one may be a little too far for him to drive. But we'll see how desperate he gets. We'll see how desperate he gets. Who knows? And we actually got somebody that reached out today who a friend of hers told her about the podcast and she had been dating Dick.
And he, of course, like, he told her that he asked to come on the podcast and we said no.
Dick, if you hear this episode, because I know you listen, you're more than welcome to come on the podcast. As a matter of fact, we'll have you on and bring all the women you cheated on me with on.
[00:07:06] Speaker A: It would fill up a Walmart, I think.
[00:07:09] Speaker B: Yeah, like, by all means, Dick, you come on because I have receipts.
[00:07:14] Speaker A: We would all love to talk to you.
[00:07:16] Speaker B: And proof of what you did. And I did nothing to you.
[00:07:21] Speaker A: No. God, no.
[00:07:22] Speaker B: So except support you. Except support you literally pay for everything. Pay for all your medical stuff.
Get you the job that you had that you just left or got fired from for some unknown reason.
Yeah, no.
And I'm also wondering, should we like his.
The, the new job that he has?
I'm like, I don't know that he should be trusted with that job either.
[00:07:47] Speaker A: No, not.
I see a lot of red flags in that situation.
[00:07:52] Speaker B: Same.
[00:07:53] Speaker A: Yeah, that's risky.
[00:07:54] Speaker B: Same. So that'll be interesting to see how long that one lasts. He also told his most recent ex that I'M crazy. Which, as we've learned, is a red fucking flag if a guy is telling you his ex is crazy.
[00:08:08] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:08:08] Speaker B: Ask yourself why?
[00:08:10] Speaker A: What made her crazy?
[00:08:11] Speaker B: Yeah, what is she? Is she crazy?
[00:08:14] Speaker A: Really?
[00:08:14] Speaker B: By all means, every woman out there, if you are dating Dick or curious about Dick and you just want to know the truth, I got receipts. I am happy to share.
Please come ask me. I don't hold it against you for wanting to know anything about him. I'm not going to, like, be that. I'm not a jealous person that's going to reach out and be like, oh, my God, how dare you be with the man that I love? Like, no, you can have him, but know what you're getting into.
[00:08:39] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:08:39] Speaker B: Because you know, it's not a laughing matter when it comes to being financially destroyed and having to dig yourself out of a.
An extreme hole because he refuses to own up and pay. What? He legally said that he would pay?
[00:08:55] Speaker A: Yeah, court ordered to pay.
[00:08:57] Speaker B: Court ordered. So now we're having to take additional steps for that.
So that's another thing is I'm still like, I'm having to deal with it because I'm constantly having to talk to lawyers and everything else.
I saw him at a concert and he was with another. Another woman, naturally. And he was supposed. He was with the 23 year old at the time because she said in her timeline she broke up with the day after, which was our anniversary.
So it would have been mine and Dick's anniversary, which I sent him a message on because I had it all planned out. I talked with my therapist about it and everything else, and his response was, happy anniversary.
And you know what he told me during the concert?
He told me that the reason he dates all these women is because he's trying to get over me because I am the one that got away, guys. But hey, he tells everybody that I'm crazy.
[00:09:44] Speaker A: The crazy one that got.
[00:09:45] Speaker B: I'm the crazy one that got away. So, like, that's what's cracking me up, right? Is it's like he keeps saying, he tells me that he still loves me. He tells me all this stuff and that I'm the one that got away and things like that. But then he tells everybody else that I'm. That I'm crazy. And he also told me that day that he would pay me, and I have it in writing, in text that he would also pay me. When I reminded him that he said he'd pay me. And then when it came time to pay and he didn't pay, I reached out and he said. And he ignored me.
Then he said he didn't have the money. When I reached out again, surprise. And he owes the 23 year old money too. Ladies, stop giving him money.
[00:10:22] Speaker A: He doesn't want a baby with you. He wants money.
[00:10:25] Speaker B: Well, the. The ex that reached out today told us about how he wanted to live on her land.
Yeah, because he's living.
[00:10:35] Speaker A: That's not even his right.
[00:10:36] Speaker B: It's a trailer that's not his. And he's current. I don't know why he's trying to leave his best friend's house.
I mean, he's your best friend. You're obsessed with him. You guys do everything together. Why are you trying to leave? But it's. He's constantly trying to move in with other women. And, like, it's not working. So then he's like, okay, well, I'm just gonna find a woman with some land that I can park my trailer on.
[00:10:54] Speaker A: That's not even his.
[00:10:56] Speaker B: Correct.
This whole thing is just, like, wild to me.
[00:11:00] Speaker A: Is he gonna live on his motorcycle on the land?
[00:11:04] Speaker B: That motorcycle? Bane of my existence. Also. Is it his or is it his best friends? Probably not.
Well, we. I mean, he admitted to me that he got his truck repo or he stopped paying on it because he couldn't afford it anymore. And I'm like, where's all your money going, bro? Yeah, like, that's what I don't understand. Like, he made good money, he lived for free or very low amounts on his friend's property. He was like, not charging him a damn thing. And I'm like, where's all your damn money going? It's going to all these 50 billion.
[00:11:35] Speaker A: Women he's dating every single day. I mean, you got to think going out to eat especially, it's like a nicer place. You're looking at least, probably 60, 70, 80 bucks.
[00:11:44] Speaker B: And he's a charmer, so he's taking them to nicer places. I actually was probably shockingly, like, one of his least bougie people. He dated because when we got together, I mean, our first day was Mexican because I love Mexican food.
[00:11:58] Speaker A: He sure does love some Mexican food.
[00:12:00] Speaker B: He does. He takes a lot of women to Los Trejos. So if he's been taking you to Los Trejos, just know that's his normal.
That's where he goes.
But yeah, it's been.
It's been crazy just to know that. It's. We got. I got women ranging from 23 to 52. I got him telling some women he wants to get him pregnant. I've got him all the way up in Tennessee and all the way down south near the beach. Like, he is getting around.
And at this point, like, wouldn't you be tired?
I'm exhausted, right?
[00:12:32] Speaker A: And I'm not even dating anybody and I'm exhausted, right?
[00:12:37] Speaker B: Like, no, I. I don't know how he keeps up with all the people.
[00:12:40] Speaker A: I really don't either.
[00:12:41] Speaker B: It's. I, like, do you think he. I. I want to know what they're named in his phone.
[00:12:46] Speaker A: I want to know if he. Oh, that's a good one.
[00:12:48] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:12:49] Speaker A: How is he not getting them confused?
[00:12:50] Speaker B: Right?
[00:12:51] Speaker A: Because there was one guy, and I'm not trying to change the subject, but he lived in Tennessee, and we had matched on a dating app, and we had, like, chit chatted back and forth a little bit, and he was like, yeah, don't you remember whenever we went to dinner a couple nights ago, I was like, that was not me. He's like, yes. And he argued with me.
[00:13:08] Speaker B: I was like, he gaslit you for a date.
[00:13:10] Speaker A: You didn't go on, started talking. So of course I post him. Are we dating the same guy? And I think it was like, Columbia. And all these one are like, oh, my God, I went to school with him. He's always been a player, blah, blah, blah. And this one girl's like, oh, I've been dating him for a year.
Like, oh, so that's. Who knows how many other women he was dating. Getting confused. That was fun.
[00:13:28] Speaker B: That's kind of what's going on with Dick. Like, it's.
It's been. It's been a wild ride. And I just don't. I don't understand.
I don't understand what's going on. And also, like, the audacity for this man to not pay me what he owes is crazy to me because it's like, why I did so so much for him.
[00:13:54] Speaker A: Yeah, you did everything for him. So.
[00:13:56] Speaker B: So, yeah. I just don't understand how after everything I did for him, he doesn't, like, feel any sort of, like, okay, yeah, she's right. Like, I owe her something.
[00:14:07] Speaker A: There's no remorse whatsoever.
[00:14:09] Speaker B: None. And the fact that then you try to, like, gaslight me. He tried to make me feel all bad for him. I've been sick. I've been in the hospital.
No, the fuck you haven't, liar.
[00:14:18] Speaker A: For what? An std, right?
[00:14:21] Speaker B: Yeah. He's like, I was admitted to the hospital.
[00:14:25] Speaker A: No, you weren't.
[00:14:27] Speaker B: Yeah, I'm just. I don't understand why he thinks that he can Just be this way and keep using these women and just keep going on and on and on with these women. And I, I just.
[00:14:38] Speaker A: It's insane.
[00:14:40] Speaker B: I wish he wasn't so charming because he makes it very easy to talk. And what's crazy is he doesn't have a lot of friends, which again, for me, in the future that's going to be a major red flag because he doesn't. He's not able to keep men friendships.
[00:14:55] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:14:55] Speaker B: He's only able to talk to women. Yeah. And charm women and everything is always his friend's faults. If he, if they get in a fight, it's always their fault. It's always every job that he's left. Because now this is seven jobs in five years.
Wow. And every job that he has left has been, oh, well, they're awful or. And most of them, I found out after the fact, he actually got fired from. He didn't leave. But everything's everybody else's fault. It's always everybody else's fault. It's never his fault. He doesn't take responsibility for anything. And he basically.
Apparently his dear old mommy told somebody who reached out to us that it's my fault for giving him the money. And I'm like, I paid for medical bills for my husband.
[00:15:40] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:15:41] Speaker B: Like my fiance at the time, but was gonna be my husband. And then also was my husband during some of the medical bills. So, like, yeah, I was taking care of my husband.
[00:15:50] Speaker A: Exactly.
[00:15:51] Speaker B: But that's the type of person he's learning from. Yeah, she is. She enables him. And she did the same thing because the person she's with, she used him for money and he took care of her. And the only difference is, is that she stayed with him because she knew a good thing when she had it. Whereas Dick didn't do that with me. Because he, he needs to just constantly have validation for multiple women at one time.
[00:16:16] Speaker A: It kind of makes me wonder if he were to ever sit down in front of a therapist, God knows he's not going to be honest with him. But how many diagnosis that would come up for him, like mental health wise?
I mean, it would be a mile long.
[00:16:29] Speaker B: It would have to be, because it doesn't make sense. He even told the girl today that broke up with him that he was only seeing her. And we know that's not true.
[00:16:38] Speaker A: No, that's not true.
[00:16:39] Speaker B: Because we just had a ton of people. Because she's been with him for a minute.
[00:16:43] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:16:43] Speaker B: And last week we had people posting him. Yeah.
[00:16:46] Speaker A: There was a man, a man who Asked about him today.
[00:16:49] Speaker B: That's weird. So, yeah, we really don't understand that one. We're very confused.
[00:16:53] Speaker A: Yeah, we've got questions.
[00:16:55] Speaker B: We're very confused at why a man's asking about him.
But, yeah, that's kind of the update is we're just. Lauren's still not getting paid. Aren't still dealing with attorneys. And that is why Lauren cannot move on.
Because until Lauren gets her damn money, she ain't moving on. Yeah. Because. And that's another thing. No one else has held this man accountable. Yeah. And sorry, sir, but you've met your match.
[00:17:19] Speaker A: Oh, he said he's more than met.
[00:17:20] Speaker B: The match because I'm not letting this go. I think he thinks I'm just gonna, like, no. Quit.
[00:17:27] Speaker A: Because that's what all the other women do.
[00:17:28] Speaker B: Yeah. He don't know me very well.
[00:17:31] Speaker A: No, he does not. He don't know who he married.
[00:17:33] Speaker B: Yeah. I'm like, neither did you. Right. Like, I guess we really didn't know each other very well because, you know, if you wanted me to not create a podcast and, you know, other things that I have in the works, you probably should have paid me.
[00:17:47] Speaker A: Yep, absolutely.
[00:17:49] Speaker B: But, hey, at least we're getting the word out there for other women to know. And at least we're just, you know, rock and rolling over here.
We get. I get messages almost every day about this man.
[00:18:01] Speaker A: That's insane.
[00:18:03] Speaker B: Yeah. Do you have any updates to that? Anything?
[00:18:05] Speaker A: Not really.
I think my biggest thing is just the fact that I'm constantly being. I don't want to say watched, but my socials are.
[00:18:16] Speaker B: Oh, yeah, they are obsessed with you.
[00:18:18] Speaker A: It's insane. So clearly I have not had any communication with any of my exes, especially, you know, my most recent ex husband and, you know, over about a year now, and some of his people are constantly stalking, creeping my social media.
And there's ways that we can see that, you know, there. We can see that. But not just him.
The other two ex husbands, some of their people also. And it's just wild. Like, if you have something to talk about, just reach out to me. I am not.
[00:18:53] Speaker B: Because they're not followers of yours. They're just watching your stuff.
[00:18:56] Speaker A: Yeah, they're actually having to type my name in. Yeah, they're not followers. They're not friends. They're physically having to type my name in to find my page and look at my things.
[00:19:04] Speaker B: It's almost like they're obsessed.
[00:19:05] Speaker A: I wouldn't. I wouldn't go that way.
[00:19:07] Speaker B: I mean, I don't type in people's names.
[00:19:09] Speaker A: It's just weird, you know, like if you have questions, reach out to me. I'm not gonna sit here.
[00:19:13] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:19:14] Speaker A: I'm not gonna blast you on this podcast. I'm not gonna do anything of that nature. But it's just really weird.
So that's really about the only update I have is that I can see you.
I see you almost every day.
[00:19:26] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:19:28] Speaker A: So yeah. If you need to talk, send me a message. We can talk drama free. You know. But it's pretty weird seeing your name pop up every day. Just about.
[00:19:38] Speaker B: Yeah, it's.
It's very strange to me that some people do that.
[00:19:44] Speaker A: Yeah.
As far as updates, that's really about all that I have I think the most recent discarded who he was with.
From my understanding, I'm like, I don't keep up with it but you know, things. Word gets around. Things get around.
[00:20:02] Speaker B: Oh, what it didn't work out? No one? No. So surprised.
[00:20:06] Speaker A: Imagine that.
So yeah, it's. It's pretty quiet on my end other than just.
Well I was on dating app so I'm not many more.
Yeah. I'm enjoying the time to myself to really sit with my thoughts and gather everything and really think about what it is that I want in a person because I don't want just somebody who's doesn't check off everything on the boxes.
[00:20:32] Speaker B: Yeah. So yeah. And I think that's great. I think that's good for both of us to you know, we're still working through our own stuff, but also like we're not settling and no one else should should be settling for anybody. And for the bare minim and which is what a lot of these men bring to the table.
[00:20:50] Speaker A: It is. And it's okay to take a break from dating.
You know, like I've had a lot of family medical issues lately so that played a huge role into a lot of it as well. And so it's okay to take a break from dating and sit with yourself, sit in the quiet and really get to know who you are. Because a lot of people don't do that, especially men.
So. Yeah.
[00:21:13] Speaker B: And I think a lot of people are scared to do it.
[00:21:15] Speaker A: Oh, I was scared shitless to do it.
[00:21:17] Speaker B: I know.
[00:21:17] Speaker A: I'm not gonna lie to you. I did not. I've had so many quiet nights and I was like, okay, I've really got to do this again.
And it's helped. It's helped quiet in my mind and it's helped me. It hasn't. It's only been what, a week And A half.
[00:21:30] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:21:30] Speaker A: But it feels so good.
[00:21:32] Speaker B: Yeah. So good. Yeah. I mean, you. You had messaged us and let me and our friend Amber know that you were doing that. And we were both very, very proud because all three of us are. Are currently taking breaks from all of. From all of it just to reset. And honestly, like, for me, I have more fun with you guys and my girlfriends than I do with the stress of, like, having to get ready for a date. And is this going to be another guy who is cheating on 50 billion people at the same time? Like, Dick's made it to the point that, like, and all the other men that are posted on. Are we dating the same guy? And all the other sites, t. And whatever. It's going to be very hard to find somebody who's an actual genuine person.
[00:22:14] Speaker A: Yeah, absolutely.
[00:22:15] Speaker B: And at this point, I'm kind of like, maybe I'll be able to find that person, like, in. In the real world without the apps, because I feel like the apps are a lot of what's being used for cheaters.
[00:22:24] Speaker A: Right.
[00:22:24] Speaker B: Or swingers. Because that's the thing. Well, my thing is, is, like, I don't. I mean, you do you. But there's actual websites for that. Yeah. But the amount of. There's a lot of swingers on normal dating apps. And so it's hard to, like, like, no, there's different apps for that. Like, let's keep these apps, like, for people who want monogamous relationships, because it's getting hard, because it just adds to the weeds of everything that we have to dig through.
[00:22:48] Speaker A: Yeah. And I think a big thing for me is, like, I'm still healing from my last marriage. And I found that one of my biggest things is that whenever I'm dating, I'm looking for the same feeling or the same characteristics in these people as what he had, like, in the beginning when things were really good.
And I'm looking for that. And it's like, I don't know if I should be looking for that or not, because that ended really, really badly for me. And so I just. It's scary.
[00:23:20] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:23:21] Speaker A: Because you want to feel that again because you knew it was real. At least on your part it was real. But then it's scary to think, okay, well, if I feel this way about this person, are they going to do me the same way that I was done before?
[00:23:31] Speaker B: Right.
[00:23:32] Speaker A: So it's good to take a break.
[00:23:34] Speaker B: And I think one of the hardest things that both of us and most women who've been through something traumatic like this to come to terms with is that we were in love. Somebody who didn't exist.
[00:23:43] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:23:45] Speaker B: And that's hard to grapple with because you're like, how did I not see it? You have all those thoughts like, is it me? Is he gonna be. Is he gonna change for somebody else? Like, and I still have those thoughts sometimes that I'll be like, maybe, maybe Dick will finally pick one person and stick with one person.
[00:24:00] Speaker A: We're still grieving that person.
[00:24:02] Speaker B: Correct. You can still grieve later. You can still grieve the person you thought that they were, even though they're not that person. And it's completely normal to do that.
The thing is, is they're not gonna change. Because every single time I'm like, maybe Dick's finally changing, Somebody posts him and it turns out that he's dating 15 people. And I'm like, oh, yeah, no, he's not. He's not gonna change.
[00:24:19] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:24:20] Speaker B: And the fact that he's still asking people for money, he's asking these women for money is insane.
[00:24:25] Speaker A: Yeah. That's wild. I just.
There's nothing to justify any of it.
[00:24:30] Speaker B: No, no, there's not. And there's nothing to justify any of their actions at this point. Like, they're all man children who. You know, I was talking to a friend over the weekend who also went through a really traumatic breakup and relationship recently, and he was 46 years old, a full astro man who was telling her that he wanted to marry her. Yeah. Asked her parents permission, like the. The week before they broke up, was talking about how I wanted to marry her and was like pointing out rings.
He took her on a family trip, like in July, a full on family trip with his entire crazy ass family who mom was screaming about how constipated she was one morning and making it real awkward for everybody. And then he tries to. Like, when he finally talked to my. My friend and was telling her like, what happened, he said part of the problem was that she was being weird on the trip. I'm sorry. Sorry. Your mom fucking talking about how she's constipated wasn't weird.
My friend was being weird because she was being quiet. She didn't know what to say. When your mom couldn't take a shit.
[00:25:33] Speaker A: I mean, Nana takes Medusa, maybe she.
[00:25:35] Speaker B: Needs to take some apparently. But like, I just don't. I was like, okay, all right.
[00:25:40] Speaker A: That is weird as shit.
[00:25:41] Speaker B: Yeah. He tried to like come back and throw all kinds of stuff, but first of all, he coward broke up with her via text or phone. Like, didn't even do it in person after being together two years.
But then also to throw, like, random stuff like, well, you're. He knew she was an introvert from the beginning. And then to sit there and be like, oh, you were being quiet. And it was awkward on my family. Triple. Yeah, I was being quiet. Your mom was talking about her shit.
What?
[00:26:07] Speaker A: It's like, I don't want to.
[00:26:09] Speaker B: I know, I know. And so I'm just like. And he's 46 years old, sir, you are a grown ass man. Guess what? He's a cop.
[00:26:15] Speaker A: Then let me guess. He doesn't know what he wants.
[00:26:17] Speaker B: No. Yeah. No, he's grown ass man who doesn't know what he wants. And yeah, and they, you know, y'.
[00:26:24] Speaker A: All need to go to therapy.
They really do so much there because.
[00:26:28] Speaker B: All of us go to therapy. But it doesn't do any good whenever the men aren't going to therapy because then we're all, like, fixing ourselves, but they're not. And then they turn around and traumatize us again.
[00:26:36] Speaker A: I wouldn't be divorced as many times as I am had therapy been involved. When I offered it.
[00:26:41] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, I offered dick. You know, I told him he needed to go to therapy and he said that he was going to. And then, of course, he never did. We couldn't find the right fit. And then now he says that he's gone because work mandated that he go for something. And I was like, okay, but therapy don't help when you lie to them. No, he was like, the reason this.
[00:27:01] Speaker A: Is like, when you say this.
[00:27:04] Speaker B: The reason that I cheated on you is because I have abandonment issues from my childhood. And when you would travel and go on trips, I felt abandoned.
Homeboy, on our very first date, I told you that I was going to travel and that traveling was my life, and I traveled a lot.
And you said, yeah, I'm good with that. And then you used it as your opportunity to cheat. And now you're trying to turn around and say that it's because I abandoned you. First of all, I took you on half the trips or invited you. And second of all, no, sir, you don't get to turn around and throw something back in my face whenever. You knew from the beginning. And I travel for work and you knew that.
[00:27:53] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:27:54] Speaker B: And then you try to, like, use some. No, Like, I think he's just out here, like, googling or asking Chad GBT to tell him stuff.
[00:28:01] Speaker A: It's definitely chat.
[00:28:02] Speaker B: And I'm like. Or you have a therapist that's an idiot. Or you're not telling the full truth.
[00:28:05] Speaker A: I would love to see his GPT history.
Oh, I would pay. Good.
[00:28:09] Speaker B: I guarantee you he just asks it all the time how to talk to women. And he puts the same thing. He puts the same. Like, he sends everybody the same message. So. Good morning, beautiful. Yeah. If you get good morning, beautiful from Dick, you aren't the only one.
[00:28:21] Speaker A: Or any man.
[00:28:22] Speaker B: Or any man. But you are not the only man. Also, Dick has Snapchat, so don't let him lie to you about that like he did me. He is about to turn 39 years old and has a Snapchat, so take that for what you will.
[00:28:33] Speaker A: Like, it's one thing if you're keeping it for, like, old photos and stuff, but it's another thing when that's your main form of communication.
That's gross.
[00:28:40] Speaker B: Yeah. Or when your wife finds out you have one because she has to use hers for work, and then your bitmoji changed, so she asked you about it, and you. And you gaslight the hell out of her and say that you don't use it. And then you find out from all the women that he dated that that was his main form of communication with them. Imagine that. Because it erases.
[00:28:58] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:28:59] Speaker B: So shocking, but.
Yep. So that's. That's Dick. You know, it's. Everything is my fault. I'm crazy, and he doesn't think he should have to pay me.
[00:29:10] Speaker A: Yeah. And I just have a bunch of stalkers.
[00:29:14] Speaker B: We're living. We are living the life.
[00:29:16] Speaker A: We are.
So if any of y' all want to talk, just reach out. Including you, Dick.
[00:29:21] Speaker B: Yeah, Dick, we will gladly have you on this podcast. You just let us know.
Well, Bree, I guess we will get back to our regular programming next week.
Also, if you are in the Huntsville area, we have a free event on Sunday, October 26, at Blue Apple Bookstore in downtown Madison. Our betrayal therapist, Teresa Williams, that we work with will be there to answer questions. You can be anonymous. We will have a box to ask questions. So go to blueapple.com or bookstore.com or go to all our socials to see how to get a ticket for it. Again, it's free, but we just need to know how many people are coming, so.
[00:29:57] Speaker A: Absolutely.
[00:29:59] Speaker B: All right, well, we will talk to you later.
[00:30:01] Speaker A: Sounds good, Sam.
