Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: Foreign.
[00:00:15] Speaker B: Welcome back to Spill the Tea.
[00:00:16] Speaker C: HSV with Lauren and Bri.
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[00:00:49] Speaker B: Hey, Lauren.
[00:00:50] Speaker C: Hey, Bri.
[00:00:51] Speaker B: How are you?
[00:00:51] Speaker C: Good. How are you?
[00:00:52] Speaker B: Good.
[00:00:53] Speaker C: Here we are again. Here we are. And this episode's a little different today, isn't it?
[00:00:57] Speaker B: It is different. We're going to be talking about green.
[00:00:58] Speaker C: Flags and man, look at us being positive.
[00:01:02] Speaker B: I know.
[00:01:04] Speaker C: We'Re trying to out a new thing, but I'm very excited about today's episode.
[00:01:07] Speaker B: I am. I'm very excited as well.
So I do actually have a green flag story this week.
[00:01:12] Speaker C: Very nice.
[00:01:13] Speaker B: There was a guy went. We went on two dates and while it wasn't the answer that I wanted, he thought that maybe the age gap was a little too much. But he communicated that to me.
[00:01:22] Speaker C: He didn't just ghost you.
[00:01:23] Speaker B: He did not ghost me. Very nice.
He, you know, let me know that he, I guess, wanted to date someone more his age, which is totally fine. He was a very nice person. He was very down to earth. He was a really good guy anyways, but he communicated that, which was really nice.
[00:01:38] Speaker C: So, yeah, that was nice of him.
[00:01:39] Speaker B: To actually do so. But today we have someone on. Her name is Megan. She's from the uk. So I've actually followed you. I started following you on TikTok and this was like at the very beginning of your journey.
[00:01:51] Speaker A: Yeah, that was, I think that was beginning of last year maybe.
[00:01:56] Speaker B: Yeah. Because I remember like you had popped up on my FYP one day and I'm like, okay. I like, I'm intrigued, like, what's going on? So if you want to just, I guess, give us a little background on your story, you've had. You've been put through the wringer with some health issues.
[00:02:11] Speaker A: Yeah. So I obviously come across. I look fairly healthy and. Well, yeah, always have done.
I've never really looked too unwell, which is why I think I fought more of a battle than some people because I'm not always believed, even by the medical professionals.
My primary diagnosis is I have a blood clotting autoimmune disease called antiphospholipid syndrome, and that means my body just produces blood clots as and when it feels like it.
And that has led to pulmonary embolisms, heart attack, five strokes.
So, yeah, I've been through it a little bit, I'd say.
And it's led me to have three open heart surgeries in the last four years.
[00:03:02] Speaker C: Wow.
[00:03:02] Speaker A: So I had a huge mass in my heart that was. Turned out to be a huge calcified blood clot that have been there for over 15 years, since childhood. As I was only 23 when it.
[00:03:14] Speaker C: Was diagnosed, that was gonna be my next question. What, like, if you didn't mind saying how old you are when you started going through all this.
[00:03:20] Speaker A: I'm 28 now, and I was 23 at the time when everything started going downhill, basically.
[00:03:26] Speaker C: Wow.
[00:03:28] Speaker A: And it. The mass was pressing on my heart valve, my tricuspid valve, which is on the right side of the heart between the atrium and the ventricle, and that caused the valve to leak severely.
So they didn't know that until they got in the operation. So they opened me up, and they found that my valve was also leaking. Just about to close me up.
[00:03:51] Speaker C: Oh, wow.
[00:03:51] Speaker A: They just removed the two masses that had one in my pulmonary artery and one in my heart, like I said.
And then they saw the valve was leaking. Then they found a hole in my heart as well. So they done a four in one surgery, fixed that.
Then within two months, I was leaking severely again from the same valve and the repair had failed that they'd done.
So I went back into surgery. They waited a few more months. I went back into surgery in November 2021. So the first one was January 21st. This was November 21st. I had another repair done again, but they added a pericardial patch, which is basically a piece of cow's tissue, so. From a cow.
And they've added it from their heart to my heart, and they added it onto one of the leaflets. So the leaflets and the valve closed properly.
That then calcified, scarred, thickened, everything like that, and the valve went too narrow.
So third time round, I needed a full mechanical replacement of my valve to hopefully fix the issue. And I had an echocardiogram in about a week's time to finally find out how successful my surgery was. So.
[00:05:02] Speaker B: So this is the most recent surgery you've had then?
[00:05:04] Speaker A: Yeah, that was in February this year.
[00:05:06] Speaker B: Right.
[00:05:07] Speaker C: And so we find. You find out in, like, a week if it was successful or not. Well, I'll definitely be keeping you. Yeah, that's. That's so young for that to happen too. And I'm sure I'm sure that's got to be very frustrating to not have people especially like medical, like personnel to believe you.
[00:05:20] Speaker A: Yeah. From. We think it started developing. My symptoms started developing about age 6 or 7.
And I was in and out of A and E or emergency room, whatever we refer it to, and that with chest pain and breathlessness and struggling, just struggling to breathe, basically from that age. And I was diagnosed with asthma, misdiagnosed. And even now I'm on the asthma register. They keep coming to me every year. Do you take your inhalers? And I know because I haven't needed to since the first operation.
[00:05:53] Speaker C: You're like, I don't actually have asthma. I have something else. Thank you, though.
[00:05:55] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:05:58] Speaker C: Oh, man. Gosh.
[00:05:59] Speaker B: So going through all of this, you are married, is that correct?
[00:06:02] Speaker A: Yes, I am. It's my second anniversary on the.
Coming up soon. Coming up the 5th of September. Awesome.
[00:06:12] Speaker B: Well, good deal. So, you know, during this time and because I. I have my own fair share of health issues. I have a brain tumor that I've had for many, many years.
I've been through many miscarriages and things of that nature.
Never once did I have a partner who was fully supportive, who actually helped.
I remember my. I've been married three times.
And so my first ex husband. I remember we went to see my doctor. I was getting ready for an eye surgery because my tumor affects my eyes, my eyesight and my eye alignment. So we went to see my doctor and he fell asleep in my doctor's appointment.
[00:06:49] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:06:51] Speaker B: So that was. That was not good. And then the second one, we had, you know, several miscarri and he just didn't really care.
[00:06:59] Speaker C: So he told her, she'll be okay.
[00:07:01] Speaker B: Yeah. He's. After every miscarriage, he would pat me on the back and you'll be okay.
So we're not used to many green flags. So tell us a little bit about, I guess maybe just the support you received from your husband during this time. You know, things that he did that were helpful that maybe women really need to look for in a future partner.
[00:07:21] Speaker A: Yeah. So I met my husband. Obviously, at the time he was just a stranger, but I met him back in 2015. I was still in college, but I went to work at a health centre for. It was like a care home, but for individuals with mental health and learning disability. And he worked there already.
So I went to do some work there for work experience, basically during college. We met there and got talking from there.
Love at first sight. Not sure, but I certainly liked him. Yeah.
Yeah. I don't I'm not. He says he likes the like look of me, but I'm not sure. We didn't really hit off straight away. Yeah, he got a lot of attention because in that care industry it's mainly women. So I felt like I was gonna have to fight through the crowds to get to him.
[00:08:18] Speaker B: Get out of my ways.
[00:08:19] Speaker A: My.
[00:08:19] Speaker C: And is this before you were diagnosed?
[00:08:22] Speaker A: Yes, it was.
So it was pre any diagnosis because I had mental health and physical health diagnoses. So I was all. My diagnosis started in 2017. That started with my mental health.
So he. And we got together in the January 2017.
[00:08:38] Speaker C: Okay.
[00:08:39] Speaker A: Like, made it official as a relationship.
And I think my first mental health diagnosis came maybe 2017, and that was with bipolar disorder.
So he knew me before I was medicated, when I was not so well. He see me at my worst and at my best in that aspect. And then when everything started going downhill at the end of 2020, obviously during COVID lockdowns and everything like that, and not being able to get the.
The help as easily and being frustrated because I knew something was wrong with me, but I just didn't know what. I couldn't pinpoint it. And I was saying, I don't feel well. Yeah. And having that support there the whole time just been incredible.
[00:09:25] Speaker C: So he just never left your side? Like he's been there from day one and just always like, was there supporting you, like telling you that he loved you and was, you know, supportive the whole time?
[00:09:36] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:09:36] Speaker C: And did he go to like your doctor's appointments with you and stuff?
[00:09:39] Speaker A: As many as he could.
He suffers with terrible anxiety himself and struggles to leave the house.
So he's attended what he could.
My most recent surgery, because of my first two surgeries during COVID lockdown, I couldn't have any visitors anyway, so that made it difficult. So we relied on FaceTime for eight weeks while I was in hospital.
But that was same as my family and everything, so.
[00:10:05] Speaker B: Right.
[00:10:06] Speaker A: It was a lonely experience anyway.
But even having that support over FaceTime meant the world.
[00:10:12] Speaker B: Oh, yeah, absolutely.
[00:10:14] Speaker A: During my most recent operation, now that obviously restrictions have lifted, he came, stayed down there with me for a whole week on the hospital site. Didn't leave my side, was there. He drove down the morning of my operation about 3am because I was going down at 6am and the hospital's quite a few hours away from where I live.
And he came down, saw me before I went down, comforted me. Obviously I was nervous because I was told I probably wasn't going to make it through the surgery, the risk was so high.
[00:10:45] Speaker B: I remember you talking about that, and I was just like, please let her make it through this.
[00:10:49] Speaker A: A lot of people are saying the same, though.
It just hits something within people.
My story, I think a lot of it's to do with my age and mothers and these figures are just saying, that could be my child or something like that. And, yeah, it did hit a note with a lot of people, I think.
[00:11:09] Speaker C: Well, it's terrifying at that age to be told you might not wake up from a surgery. I can't even imagine how you must have felt in that time.
[00:11:16] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:11:16] Speaker C: And how you're. And how your spouse felt like he probably was terrified, too. And, I mean, your parents, too. But, like, yeah, your spouse is, like, possibly saying goodbye, and obviously, like, you go in with positive thoughts. But, like, that's a terrifying thing.
[00:11:28] Speaker B: Right.
[00:11:29] Speaker A: Well, that's one reason why we not got married as quick as we did, because we've been together, like, over seven years. But it was one of my last wishes to get married before anything may possibly happen. So we had our marriage gifted by a charity called Gift of a Wedding, and they set up weddings for terminal brides and grooms to give them their last wish. And they organized the whole day after our original wedding got canceled because the company went into liquidation.
[00:11:59] Speaker B: I'm gonna cry.
I'm gonna cry like that.
[00:12:02] Speaker C: That's so sweet.
[00:12:03] Speaker B: It is so sweet.
[00:12:04] Speaker A: As you can sort of see behind me, there's some lovely photos from our wedding day. So I love that. Yeah. It was just the most perfect day, Right? Yeah.
[00:12:13] Speaker B: So what are some of the conversations, if you don't mind sharing, like, that y' all had leading up to your surgery?
[00:12:20] Speaker A: I made a lot of plans, Things to remember me by. I did share this on my TikTok, so we had, like, a hand cast made of our hands together, mine and my husband. So we're all forever holding hands.
I don't know if you're aware of, like, a build a bear, which is like, you can make your own. Make your own bear and obviously put your voice in it. And I have my voice with a message inside for him.
[00:12:43] Speaker B: Right.
[00:12:45] Speaker A: I have all my funeral plans written out now because I thought, he's not gonna have a clue. He knows me really well, but he's not gonna have a clue what I want, so he won't want to talk about it. So I just wrote it down. He doesn't like having those hard conversations sometimes. But that's not a bad thing. It's just the way he coped with his anxiety.
[00:13:04] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:13:04] Speaker B: Right.
[00:13:05] Speaker C: And it's kind of you to think about his anxiety in that way, too. Like you're going through something hard yourself, but you're conscious of his anxiety and trying to make it easier for him. God forbid something did happen.
[00:13:16] Speaker A: I almost feel guilty at times because I know my health conditions worsen his anxiety.
Not in the fact that he doesn't think he's unwell in that way or anything, but just worrying about me constantly doesn't help him at all. And I feel guilty for that, and I know I shouldn't because it's not control, but.
[00:13:34] Speaker B: Yeah, but the fact that he's still. He's with you, you know, he's in it for the long haul, and that.
That moves mountains for me personally. Just that he's in it with you, you know, good or bad.
[00:13:48] Speaker A: I hope so, anyway. I think time's told so far, so absolutely. We'll see.
[00:13:55] Speaker C: I think that's a huge thing, because I think a lot of. At least the things that we see on our show is that a lot of people just give up in this day and age, especially for our generation.
And a lot of people are just like, this is too hard, and they just bounce. And especially, I mean, with him having anxiety, the fact that he's like, no, I'm gonna stick this out, and I'm gonna support her, even though it is hard for me, you know, with certain things, like, that says a lot to him and who he is as a person, which I'm like, so happy you found somebody that's a good person, because I feel like today that can be lacking sometimes.
[00:14:28] Speaker B: We're still looking for that.
[00:14:30] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:14:31] Speaker A: I feel very fortunate I found it like him at a young age as well, because then hopefully I do get to spend more years with him than what I would have done if I had found him at a later age. But whether my life expectancy is still restricted, I don't know yet. So I'm just taking every day as it comes and living life and loving it as I go along. Really.
[00:14:52] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:14:52] Speaker C: As you should. Day by day. Is that like, you're kind of like, your motto, like a day by day, like, live life to the fullest? Yeah.
[00:15:00] Speaker A: I mean, it varies so much every day as well. Like, one day I could be rock bottom with mental health and physical health, struggling with symptoms, and then the next day I'm thriving, surviving, living. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Just day by day. Yeah.
[00:15:19] Speaker C: Have you had any issues? Because we talk about mental health a lot on this podcast as well. Because, like, for me personally, like, I had to go on an antidepressant whenever everything happened with my spouse because I had suicidal thoughts with everything that happened. That and my anxiety just was like, out of the roof. I was like, I don't feel like me. I know something's wrong. So I had to go on something for myself. So we, we try to take that stigma away from, from women especially that feel like, oh, I can't talk about it, or I can't talk about any medication and stuff. So with you with, like dealing with bipolar disorder, what's the vibe over there in the UK like, you guys? Is it, is it as stigmatized as it is over here in the States or.
[00:16:02] Speaker A: Definitely, yeah, it's. I, I almost fear telling people.
Like, I started a new job two weeks ago and I have told people that my, my group that I've started with and like my seniors and stuff, and I've told them, but there's always that reluctant side, like, do. I don't. I like. Because you hear people come out in conversation. I was feeling rap that day, you know, one. I was feeling as high as a kite and then like down the dumps and like flicking in between minutes and it's like.
But if you knew exactly what it was like to live with it, you, you wouldn't necessarily come out with those comments, I think. And it's just, it's, it's.
There's a huge stigma around it.
[00:16:47] Speaker C: Yeah, I think that's hard too, because the, like, you have all your physical stuff that you're physically dealing with and people can like, you know, see a scar or something a lot easier. You can't see the mental scars. So a lot of people just like, ignore it or just are like, oh, especially with women. We're being dramatic.
[00:17:04] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:17:04] Speaker C: You know, that whole thing. So it's nice that. And if you're. Because you met your partner working in like a, Like a mental health.
[00:17:13] Speaker A: Mental health.
[00:17:13] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:17:14] Speaker C: Which is great because then he already kind of had a background for, for mental health as well.
[00:17:20] Speaker A: I tend to find, though, because I've always worked in mental health until my most recent job, I tend to find that doesn't always mean they're accepting of it.
That employers I have been let go of from jobs because of my mental health.
[00:17:38] Speaker C: Wow. Really?
[00:17:39] Speaker A: And then having that set you back a bit and be more reluctant to tell people from there, whether they're friends, family, employers, anything like that.
It's any relationship, it's just.
It puts you on edge a little bit to share.
But you shouldn't be scared to openly admit that you do struggle sometimes, and.
[00:18:02] Speaker C: Everyone does with something.
[00:18:04] Speaker A: Yeah, definitely. And like I said to my employer, although I am diagnosed and I am medicated for it, I haven't been this well with my mental health.
Well, I haven't been unwell with my mental health for a long, long time because of the medication. And if that keeps me stable and I've got on the right medication, that's the main thing. And the therapies that I've been through and having that support system in my husband and my family and my friends.
[00:18:30] Speaker B: Yeah, absolutely.
[00:18:32] Speaker A: That's keeping me well, and that's the most important thing. I don't think the diagnosis should define you in any. Whether it's physical or mental health.
[00:18:39] Speaker B: Agree.
[00:18:40] Speaker C: I absolutely agree. Like, it shouldn't. That shouldn't define you. And I'm glad that you have a support system, because I think that's another thing we try to talk about on here, is the support system sometimes is one. Other than, obviously medication therapy is important, but a support system is very important.
[00:18:53] Speaker B: Right. And a lot of people, I feel like they don't have a good support system because they're afraid to talk about it. And so we're here, like, trying to bring awareness, especially our podcast, you know, it's. It's based towards women, you know, at least right now it is. And so we want to let them know, you know, you're not alone. You know, we're all going through something, something, you know, good or bad, and so you're not. Don't, please don't feel isolated, because there's always somebody else dealing with something of this nature.
[00:19:18] Speaker C: And if they don't have anybody to reach out to, they could always, like, reach out to us. Because being alone is. Is one of the worst things that you can feel. Because even though I wasn't even alone, like, my parents came down the day I found out that he was having, like, that we were splitting. Like, my parents came down.
They were here whenever I, you know, found out or caught him on the date having an affair. And so, like, they.
They were physically here, but I still felt alone in that, which is crazy. Until I got my levels right and got, you know, all my medication in order. And now, like, I'm not.
It's always just. It's a daily thing, like you said. Like, you just. Every day you're like, all right, we'll see how today goes. But you're just like. As long as you're, like, you know, working on yourself and actually like taking your medication and everything, then you know, that's just doing the best you can and we got to support each other for that.
[00:20:09] Speaker B: That's all you can do.
[00:20:11] Speaker A: Yeah, definitely. I think the support system probably is the most important thing out of anything really. Whether like medication therapy, because if you haven't got that support in anyone, it doesn't matter who it is. It doesn't matter if they're a close relationship or a stranger, if you've got that some one person to talk to. And sometimes it's even easier talking to a stranger. I find it is anyway, opening up to someone who won't judge you because they don't know you and they don't have that close bond with you to piece together all the history and everything together. I just find just talking about it is so important.
[00:20:47] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, it's easy. I know. For me it's easier to talk to people that I don't know about certain things because like you said, they. Even though they don't know the full history of it, it's almost. It's like an unbiased opinion almost because they don't know everything but they're still there to support you.
And so that's like with me and Lauren. We've only known each other since January and so. But like she is one of my biggest support systems and so it's been really nice to have.
[00:21:14] Speaker C: Yeah, you wouldn't know.
[00:21:15] Speaker A: You've only known each other since January. Like.
[00:21:18] Speaker B: I know, I know it's wild.
[00:21:20] Speaker C: It is, it is great. But I think that's part of it is like, you know, people need to know that you may meet your support system like later in life too and that, you know, just accept it. Like, you know, the way we met is because my now ex husband asked her on a date.
[00:21:34] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:21:35] Speaker C: Like it's crazy.
[00:21:36] Speaker A: But here we are curveballs and you just gotta accept what it sort of gives you, I guess. And.
[00:21:41] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:21:43] Speaker B: Well.
[00:21:44] Speaker C: And like your story shows how like you don't ever know what's coming. And so life can be potentially could be short. So you need to live every day, you know, for yourself, for your friends, for your family, your support system. Like, try to live in the day and. Because you just never know.
[00:22:00] Speaker B: Absolutely.
[00:22:03] Speaker A: I did understand the importance of living life every day because you never know what's going to happen because my sister unfortunately passed away a few years ago at a young age. So I do know the importance of it.
But until that turning point, I didn't quite understand. And then once that happened seven years ago now. Then it was like, right, I really need to do what I need to do and get on with life because I need to make myself happy more than.
More than anyone else.
[00:22:31] Speaker B: So literally, you like the way I see it? I guess. And correct me if I'm wrong, your family was your support system, but you were also their support system when your sister passed away. So that's especially your diagnosis as well. So all of that was sort of in the same time frame.
[00:22:48] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:22:48] Speaker B: Is that right?
Gotcha. So I guess a big thing for me, I think, going forward into a new relationship, when I do, is positivity, having someone who is supportive and who is positive, you know, maybe not in every nature because I've got a lot of dark humor and so does Lauren, so.
But is that something that you think is important? You're just having that positive attitude and outlook and situations like this?
[00:23:14] Speaker A: I think so. I was saying this to somebody, I couldn't tell you who, but I was saying this to somebody the other day about when I was actually going down for my last surgery.
I had to have a positive mindset about all of it. I even spoke to TikTok just before I went down and I said, I'm gonna be alright. I'll catch up with you in a few days.
That's the way it's gonna be. You did. And then as they were anesthetizing me and I was going to sleep for my surgery, I said, everything's gonna be fine. Because if I panic about it and worry about what could happen, I think the negative mindset is going to impact a lot of the outcome. So I think having a positive outlook really does.
Really does mean a lot in any. Any walk of life, right?
[00:24:02] Speaker B: Mm, absolutely. Did your husband share in that same positive outlook or was he a little more like. I don't want to say realistic, but concerned? Concerned?
[00:24:14] Speaker A: Yeah, he was very concerned. Obviously, I got six different opinions from six different surgeons because no one would operate right. And it took two and a half years of finding all these opinions. And because everyone was saying, there's pretty much no chance you're going to make it, I think he was being very realistic.
And then when we spoke to the surgeon who did do it, in the end, the surgeon himself was very optimistic. He was like, I can do this, I've got this in the bag. It's going to be fine. You're going to be great. You're going to live life and you're going to be happy and healthy.
And from that point, my husband was a lot more Optimistic and encouraging. To me, I would say that everything was going to be okay.
Good. But I know deep down he was absolutely terrified. I said it was the scariest day of his life.
[00:25:10] Speaker B: Imagine.
[00:25:12] Speaker C: I'm sure it was for both of you.
[00:25:14] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah. Well, I always think it's worse for those looking in.
[00:25:17] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:25:18] Speaker A: The patient has to deal with it. They don't have a choice.
[00:25:21] Speaker C: And you're asleep, you know, you go to sleep. So yeah, you're like, I'm not actually here.
[00:25:26] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:25:27] Speaker B: Like when I tell you I was stalking your Instagram and TikTok, like waiting for an update. Like, if she does not post, like, I'm sending another message, like, I'm gonna blow her Instagram up.
Like, I have to know.
[00:25:39] Speaker A: But my husband was actually sat in the cafe. They waited all day at hospital until I got to intensive care and with my family and his mum to my mother in law and they saw the surgeon just wander out for lunch, like. And I was, they still haven't got the call that I was okay. And they were like, what's happened?
[00:26:00] Speaker C: Where's he going?
[00:26:01] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:26:02] Speaker A: Panic set in then for him. He was really like, I was about to get up and talk to him, like, what's happened? And then he got a call five minutes later from the other surgeons that assist the main surgeon, said, everything's gone to plan, he can come to our intensive care in the next half an hour and see her. And he was like, oh my God.
[00:26:20] Speaker C: That surgeon has no idea. And he's just like going to lunch. He's like, it's fine. I did good today. I'm gonna go get my lunch.
[00:26:25] Speaker B: I'd be like, you are not allowed to eat until you talk to me.
[00:26:29] Speaker C: Oh man, that's. I mean, it sounds, I love that the, the doctor, the surgeon himself was like super positive too. He was like, you're just putting it out there, like putting like, this is what we're gonna do, this is what's gonna happen.
[00:26:43] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, absolutely.
Obviously I still had the fear of me because the other five opinions I had, but the positivity I got from him on the sixth opinion did really help. And that's why I had to tell myself it's going to be okay because the more I panicked about it, I do believe there would have been a worse outcome.
Even just telling myself as I go to sleep, like, I'm gonna be awake in a few hours time. And I was, I was awake four hours after they finished surgery, which is just incredible. And I was up and walking within 10 hours.
[00:27:17] Speaker C: Wow, that's awesome.
[00:27:19] Speaker A: My first surgery, I was out of it for four days, so they couldn't wake me up because I wasn't having any of it. I was getting aggressive when they tried waking me up.
[00:27:27] Speaker C: Let me see.
[00:27:28] Speaker A: I won't sleep.
[00:27:31] Speaker C: Well. I hope. I hope your appointment in a week goes well, too.
[00:27:35] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:27:37] Speaker C: Yes, please do. Please do.
[00:27:39] Speaker B: Absolutely.
[00:27:40] Speaker C: Definitely. Wanna. No.
[00:27:42] Speaker B: Yeah, we do. Well, I appreciate you so much for talking to us. You know, it's like, you know, this podcast, it's based around all the red flags when it comes to relationships and stuff. So having a positive story and you telling us a little bit, you know, about your husband and things of that nature, you know, and the support system that you needed, that.
That's huge.
[00:28:01] Speaker A: So, yeah, we really appreciate it. I think if you can support each other, it goes a long way. And it's not all on him to support me. It's me to support him and vice versa. And we've just got a good. A good little unit between us, and we work well. So I love that can happen.
[00:28:18] Speaker C: I love. I love that. I'm glad that you have that, especially with everything that you've been through, because we want to be able to, you know, do this for people and let people that are not alone in all kinds of ways, including this, like, situation where you have, like, you know, dealing with some physical, medical issues. And, like, a lot of women may be like, oh, I'm. I'm young and I'm going through this and I'm alone. Like, no, you're not. Here's somebody who's literally going through it.
[00:28:39] Speaker B: They think that doing it alone is okay. And it's like, no, you need that support system. You know, you've got to have.
[00:28:44] Speaker A: That's okay to rely on people. Like, yeah, we shouldn't be ashamed of needing that support.
[00:28:49] Speaker B: Yeah, exactly.
[00:28:50] Speaker C: Absolutely. So, well, thank you so much for coming on and for joining us. It's all the way from the uk, which I love it there.
[00:28:58] Speaker B: Well, thank you so much, Megan, for coming on.
We'll talk to you later and keep us updated.
[00:29:03] Speaker C: Yes. And Brie will see you next week.
[00:29:05] Speaker A: Sounds good.
[00:29:06] Speaker B: We'll see you next week.
[00:29:32] Speaker A: Sam.
